what is wrong with me?

Question

I've only had sex with my gf 5 times and ive been utterly unable to attain orgasm.

ive read on numerous forums that the problem lies with the guy so what is wrong with me?

some details..

1. i find her very very attractive
2. i get erect (because of 1)
3. when we were doing it i was drugged with flu and cold medicine. (could that have affected me?)
4. she orgasmed and says she can feel me quite well inside of her.

5. All i felt was wet and warm and i dont know


Ive also read that something must be psychologically wrong with a guy who cant orgasm with a woman. is that true? am i crazy?

what i believe is wrong is that
1. im too small to feel anything but she denies that because b4 i told her i faked orgasms she said i was 8 inches (7 1/2) and that she felt me quite well. so that cant be it
2. she is either too wet and i dont get enough friction to feel anything or she is too big genitalia wise. *but i love wet its tasty*
3. or as stated b4 the cold meds could have messed wit

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i was her 1st.

also can being utterly worried about if you were pleasing her during intercourse mess with my ability to orgasm? there is alot of pressure on men to please your woman or else she will get rid of me and i dont want to mess up

if this is a non solvable problem for me dont worry i shant break up with her i just will have to make sacrifices andd keep on faking them
because i love her

* 19 minutes ago
* - 3 days left to answer.

Additional Details

12 minutes ago
yes but if i enjoy the experience and orgasm in 5 mins!!!
i would rather /wrists

i rather not orgasm and she does
than i orgasm and she doesnt

( also this pull out in 5 secs thing isnt helping)

i spend anymore money i wont be able to buy her birthday present so sex therapist is a no

ty for finding the question interesting but please answer instead?

Answer 1

Stress. You think too much.

Try being somewhere you can be loud and think of nothing but pleasuring yourself. This will help you over come the ogasm thing and dont think it unfair to be thinking of yourself from time to time.

Once you get over your orgasm thing you may learn to relax and all will fix itself

Answer 2

It could be a variety of things.

1) You're overthinking it. Of course you worry about her pleasure, but you also have to focus on yourself. When you feel ready, if it was not long enough, slow it down some, change up the rythm and hold it until the feeling passes, and then you rebuild to that point. You can repeat this as necessary. It's tough to explain, but once you learn how to do it, you'll understand what I mean.
2) The cold medicine could have had something to do with it, but I dunno. I know when I've been drinking, it takes me forever haha.

Keep at it, if you care for the other person, you can work at it to make it great for both of you.

Answer 3

are you able to achieve orgasm through masturbation? If so then maybe it is stress of some kind. Too many things on your mind or something like that.

Answer 4

not everyone orgasms during PIV sex, but also yes the cold medicine could have made it more difficult...

Answer 5

Maybe you can talk to a sex therapist.

Answer 6

I could very well be wrong yet I am going to say -fear.