An inlaw of mine has been having trouble in the bedroom with her husband - their whole marriage. The best analogy is the "Al Bundy effect" - he only lasts maybe a minute or so and that's it. How do I know this? She has a habit of sharing the info with people. In any case, he does other things but nothing that he has tried (or she has) makes any improvement.
Now, they are at the point that nothing has happened between them for months. From what I understand, she doesn't think it's even worth it anymore. Suggestions?
2007-10-11 10:07:35 · 11 answers · asked by iraqcaptive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
viagra.
best for her to say she heard the girls talking about it and wants to try it. dont say she wants to fix his problem.
this can be caused by many problems, but i would guess in this case it is her. telling everyone he sucks in the bedroom, only makes it worse.
2007-10-11 10:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound crazy, but I PROMISE, it really works. There is a company called Slumber Parties (ladies, I'm sure you've heard about them). Anyways, they have this stuff called Time in A Bottle. And... it really works. Have them go online, or you go online for them, order it, and let them try. There are also some other things that may help put the spark back in the bedroom.
2007-10-11 10:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. I know exactly how she feels and it can be frustrating. God designed sex for marriage. And he designed it to be good. I once read that it was a form of worship. I think she should pray about it. Most of the time its because they haven't been intimate that makes it quick and it could be that he doesn't have stamina. He could go to the doctor and you maybe you guys need to find ways to turn each other on again. Sex is suppose to be about the other person not ourselves. Its about pleasing. I know we want to be pleased but we want our spouse to be happy as well.
2007-10-11 10:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi how you doing? i just want to say hang in there things will get better. now i'm no expert but his problem may be impotence and there is medication for that or premature ejaculation, once he goes to the doctor and find out the problem you are facing will disappear. once that is taken care of try to introduce so toys to spice it up a little bit but remember that a marriage is not based on just sex you have to find a common ground and work on it together
2007-10-11 10:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jaclyn W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see his physician. There may be serious medical conditions that may be at the root of the problem. In addition, he needs to take tests before a doctor will prescribe Viagra. It is not for everyone and there can be serious complications if taken by the wrong person. If it is not biological the doctor may be able to recommend someone to help (e.g. a sex therapist).
2007-10-11 10:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by xtremesummerraine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to those good ole vows, "for better or WORSE"? I can't believe someone would get divorced over such a stupid issue! And, she certainly sounds like trash if she telling people about her husband's short-comings in bed. If Viagra doesn't work then he should consult a doctor.
2007-10-11 10:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-26 02:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I understand the question right he shoots a little to quick, then the problem is he is embarrassed about this and no longer wants the embarrassment of sex. Here is how to solve it.
1. Tell him to stop masturbating, the whole point of it is to get it done as quickly as possible (good for masturbating bad for real sex).
2. There is not much that drinking can solve but this is it tell your inlaw to hit him up when he has been drinking because it thins the blood (good for erection), but dulls the feeling (good for lasting longer). Once his confidence is built back up their sex life will come back around.
2007-10-11 10:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by Marshal Jed Cooper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a vibrator. Get her rocks off before he gets his.
Obvious Shona, you've never been married to a 30 second man! 3 pumps he's done....that's a sad life and you just start feeling like a hole not a human being. Trust me, its not worth the effort.
2007-10-11 10:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that he seeks the advice of a doctor, and they should also go to couples counselling. There are marriage counsellors that specialize in that area of marriage.
2007-10-11 10:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbear1a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A limp noodle is a real problem. She knew about this BEFORE they married. I know this much. He better not find out she's been running her mouth. If he does, she may fall in a hail of ROARING GUN SMOKE!
2007-10-11 10:16:20 · answer #11 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋