How much do you have in common with your spouse?

Question

How much do you rate that you have in common on a scale of 1 - 10? Do you have a happy marriage? Do you attribute having a lot in common with having a happy marriage?

I would like to hear your story. I got time to listen. I am doing a research paper on love.

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Whether your marriage is happy or not, only answer this question to respect to having things in common, Please.

Answer 1

My husband and I have alot in common. We come from the same middle class family background, grew up in the suburbs (he outside Houston, me outside OKC), our parents were never divorced, we share the same morals, we share the same values, we share the same belief in God, we share the same work ethic, we agree about politics, and we are both of Irish/Welsh heritage. On a scale of 1 - 10, I would give what we have in common a 7 ... mmmm, maybe 8.

We have a happy marriage, although it's been bumpy a few times during the past 22 years. Having alot in common has helped us get along, but I think what has helped us maintain a healthy loving relationship is that we share the same belief in God, the same morals and the same values. Because we share these three critical elements, there is no misunderstanding and there is never any reason to explain ourself to the other.

Answer 2

My husband and I do have a few things in common, such as our views on faith, marriage, traditions. Our main source for conflict is disciplining our children. I would put us at a 5 or 6 for having things in common.

We have a very happy marriage, there are times when we argue or get upset with one another, but we know to talk to each other about it before it gets worse. The best advice that we got when we we married was to never go to bed angry, and I believe in that 100%.
I would say 9 or 10 for our marriage.

Answer 3

I would rate my marriage about about a 5, there is lots of room for growth! I have a happy marriage, we have been married ALMOST 3 years, been together 4. I was married once before and thought I would never be happy! We have a lot in common, our believes in God, parenting, music, movies, money, college degrees, sports teams ...

We do have different backgrounds, he was raised on a Dairy farm in South Eastern Tennessee outside a little town. I was raised in the Air Force and got to move around a bunch.

Answer 4

My husband and I have a happy marriage; we have some things in common - enough to keep us interested, I guess! In general, we're fairly independent, and don't always do things together; our typical evening consists of him working on the computer, and me cooking dinner or playing a video game. We don't always like the same movies or TV shows, but we have a couple of favorites that we watch together. We like camping, and just bought an RV - this was an exciting thing for both of us, as we've (independently of each other) been dreaming of buying one for many years. He's very technology-savvy, and loves to tinker with things, take them apart and put them together; this is something that is different between us - I don't have much interest in discussing programming languages, touch panels and servers, or figuring out how things work. And it's ok - he's got his friends for that. I'm a bit more outgoing than he is - he can be quite socially awkward, and is quite happy holed up at home in front of his computer monitor. I'm the "cruise director", and end up interfacing with the rest of the world and coordinating social events. Generally, we're just very compatible; there are enough things for us to do together, but we also don't mind maintaining our own interests and doing things apart. Also, we "complete" each other in a sense that there are some things that one of us is better at than the other, so we divvy up the responsibilities accordingly.

Answer 5

I'd say we are at about a 5. We have all the same beliefs on politics and life in general, and a few things we like in common, but our interests tend to stray. He's big into technology and a computer programmer. I can barely check my e-mail. I'm a Biologist who works with animals, and he wouldn't even touch a baby alligator I was working with. He likes animals though... just not that close contact. But, we both love our kitties, and are very happy:)

We also have very similar tastes in music, so no fighting over the radio which is nice.

I think you have to have the same fundamental views on life, but interests can differ and you'll still be happy.

Answer 6

I would rate my marriage at a 1-2 both in happiness and in things in common. I am pursuing a graduate degree in history and my husband has worked at the same grocery store since high school. I am very social, he is not, we don't agree on money, our son or what to do with our future. He is very laid back and I am very outgoing and confrontational. This is a major problem for us because we have nothing to talk about except to argue over the things we do not agree on. Our marriage is on pretty rocky ground.

Answer 7

I would say on that scale we are a 10+. Our marriage is extremely happy. Without things in common, I don't see how people can get along and be happy. Don't get me wrong, we aren't clones of each other, but do have a whole lot in common.

Answer 8

My husband & I had nothing in common B4 we married, but we loved each other. Our marriage had alot of ups and downs for the 1st 3-4yrs, but now that we've received Jesus Christ, we are no longer the people we once were. Now the 1 thing we have in common is God & Our marriage keeps getting better every day because of HIM we've never been happier.

Answer 9

I can appreciate this question I did a paper and inter viewed my grandma about how marriage and love were in her day.

I am confident
husband is unsure: I help with positive thinking and encouragement.

My husband is very thrifty
I am not: He helps me curb my spending

We both love going to movies, out hiking, gardening, watching movies: He likes horror
I like comedies.

We talk all the time and sometimes voices get raised but we both agree our opinion matters.

Rate: 10

Answer 10

I have been married since 2003 and it was happy then aroung 2005 it got sour. So it is a unhappy marriage
so we are getting a divorce. So it is a 4