I love my husband very much. He's a good man and a good provider and he loves me. But there is one thing about him that I am ashamed to say really turns me off...over the past couple of years, his teeth have begun to fall out and he even has front teeth and bottom teeth missing. The few remaining teeth are awful. He has always brushed his teeth daily and has good hygiene, but his family has a history of severe dental problems. When we got married, 20 years ago, his teeth were fine. It's not that he hasn't been to the dentist and tried to get them taken care of. Even though we have dental insurance, it only will pay a mere fraction of the cost of oral surgery and dentures. (Also, I know he is now avoiding the dentists because he doesn't want to get dentures....he's only 42.) We don't have $6000 to pay upfront. But lately, I am having great difficulty just being close to him and I feel so terrible and shallow for feeling that way. Any advice?
2007-10-11 09:54:47 · 13 answers · asked by mysti 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you're not shallow at all. This is actually a really serious issue. I can totally understand where you're coming from.
The dentists that I know all offer payment plans. See if you can work out something with a dentist of your choice.
Is there a Medical & Dental School nearby? When I was in college and broke, there was a dental hygienist program and I used to get my teeth cleaned for free for volunteering as a guinea pig. The girls were so cautious and it was all done under supervision. It was great. So maybe there's a dental school where they would work on him for free. It's worth a phonecall.
The bigger problem, I think, is his reluctance to go get it done. I think the only way to get him to go will be to be honest with him. Men (not all, but many) usually don't do so well with subtle hints. In my experience, if you tell them straight up what the problem is and what you want done, they'll hear you. Maybe your hubby is different, but he can't be oblivious to the fact that having no teeth isn't exactly appealing intimately. You can be nice about it and say something like: look honey, I love you and I want to be intimate with you, but I have a real problem going there because of the teeth. Won't you please get it fixed. Sheesh.. I hope he listens... best of luck to you :-)
2007-10-11 10:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to get dentures then he needs to go to a dentist now in order to save as many teeth as possible. Yes, dentistry is expensive, but worth it! Find out how much it is going to cost and either set up a payment plan or take out a loan and that way you can pay X amount each month.
Another idea is, depending on where you live....there are dental colleges where senior students need patients to work on for a minimal amount of money. Check that out.
But the longer you wait the worse it is going to get, so get an appt with your dentist now!
2007-10-11 10:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live, but $6000 for dentures? That seems a bit high. Check around. You can always get on a payment plan. Bad teeth can lead to other health problems. I'd suggest you figure out someway to get the man some teeth.
2007-10-11 11:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the Bad Guy here but your Hubby has let himself go on this point and now it affects you, Well just cow girl up and tell him maybe he will get the mesage and talk to his DDS look I have dental Ins and yea it will not pay full price but in his case even if he has to pay or Finance 1/2 the cost its worth it. Look if you think he has sewer gas bust out of his grill can you imagine what his coworkers and other people think? He is what 42 that is NO excuse he is a grown man he just needs to swallow his pride and fix his GRILL!
2007-10-11 10:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mysti, My dear you are okay just be honest with him ! Age has nothing to do with bad teeth. There are kids with dentures and glasses and hearing aides ! Bad teeth not only effects others but your health as well ! Find someone who will do it on payments ! Don"t let pride get in the way !
2007-10-11 10:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-08 00:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husban like you said then you must help him. Do you work? If not get a job and help him. Call around and ask for payment plans. Go to the bank. Try every thing you can. This man needs you. You have been married to him 20 years and now you can't get close to him. Are you sure it isnt something else?
2007-10-11 10:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you could get past this.How do you think he would treat you if it was you that had this problem?I was on a job and was hit in the mouth with a large drill and lost 14 teeth.I was 24 when I had to get dentures and no woman has ever said anything about them except one woman who begs me to remove them while performing oral on her!Good luck.
2007-10-11 10:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can go to Affordable dentures. It is better then trying to eat with bad teeth ,and when a person's teeth are bad, it puts their health in danger. As bad teeth can cause a lot of bacteria, that can effect all of your organs, not just your teeth,
2007-10-11 10:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty harsh. He didn't make himself. You shouldn't judge him on his looks, but by his heart. I'm not trying to be mean, just letting you know that you should ignore the fact that his teeth aren't great and don't let that ruin your relationship. I hope this helps!
2007-10-11 10:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Preppy And Cute! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋