My husband cheated on me and when I asked him if he regreted it he said no, he said he only felt bad after he saw what it had done to me and how much it hurt me. He said that he doesn't like to regret things, and that it was just a ****! He says he feels bad but he must not if he doesn't feel any kind of guilt for what he did, I just dont understand!
2007-10-11 09:42:19 · 17 answers · asked by Lady3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was thinking with the wrong head
2007-10-11 10:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, as has already been said, there is NO "right" reason to cheat - any reason is WRONG! Second, get your *** to a doctor and get all the necessary tests done to be sure you didn't get knocked up or an STD. Third, if you got lucky and are not pregnant and did not get an STD and you actually do love your husband keep your mouth shut and don't ever say anything about your infidelity to anyone - take that secret to your grave. If you did get pregnant or an STD then you have to tell him. And IF he decides to give you a second chance get counseling, cause you most definitely need it.
2016-05-21 23:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by dona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His only mistake was being honest with you. If you were flirting with the UPS man at the office, did you run home and tell him how hot the guy is? Of'course not, you kept it to yourself. Many men consider that cheating: just the thought. Even the Bible says it is cheating, unpure thoughts. You probably do all kinds of things that are not supposed to be done by the wife, for example, you probably don't defer to him. Or, you probably speak back to him when you should be silent. So, I would say, now that you asked him and he told you, that you two have to work out fair terms for the marriage. For example, he won't cheat anymore as long as you do............what? Fill in the blank, chances are he cheated cause you did something wrong in the marriage. Good Luck, it sounds like he loves you very very much.
2007-10-15 09:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl!! I don't understand why you are still with him after he cheated?!?!?!? Its one thing for a man to cheat and feel sorry for it. No matter how sorry and regretful he was I could never bounce back from that! On top of everything he doesn't regret it. He didn't care until he saw you hurt? Why are you sticking around for that?
2007-10-11 09:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Meichelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ooooo, chicky pop....you give men WAAAAYYYY to much credit! Many men do not have the forethought gene. Meaning they do not have the ability to think through the situation and visualize all possible outcomes and the cause and effect.
Or he could of just been thinking with the little head and not the big head.
2007-10-11 09:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't really make him feel bad and kick his sorry a@@ to the curb. it's one thing to cheat. it's an entirely another thing to cheat and not give a crap about who you hurt in the process, and it's inexcusable - i'll repeat that - INEXCUSABLE to not give a crap that the person you hurt and cheated on IS YOUR SPOUSE! he's not worth your tears. do something for yourself now. get a better life. good luck
2007-10-11 09:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With regret come remorse and guilty feelings..Maybe he just regrets getting caught and the regret isn;t from hurting you..You should really find out which it is.
2007-10-11 09:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...when he says he feels bad? He is LYING. If anything, he feels bad he got CAUGHT!
I agree with the first 2 answers--you should kick his azz out & divorce him. If you forgive him, its like a license to do it again, and he WILL.
After all, if he loved you, he wouldn't have CHEATED!
2007-10-11 09:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Miss Lady 3, Sweety please don"t hate all of us men ! My Xwife was a repeat offender and saw how much it hurt me but still didn"t feel bad !
2007-10-12 08:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is sorry that it hurt you but would do it again. He is a selfish person and selfish people do what is best for them they have no regard for the feelings of others.
2007-10-11 09:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Kat G 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
NO,HONEY...HE WON'T FEEL BAD.
MINE DIDN'T AND HE BROUGHT ME HOME
HERPES II
FROM HIS LITTLE BUSINESS TRIP TO IOWA!
ALONG WITH THE PHOTO OF HIS CONQUEST.
HIM, IN HER KITTY..
AND HIS 2 FRIENDS
WERE ALL HUMPING SOME BLOND S L U T
WITHOUT WEARING CONDOMS!
SO GET OUT NOW...BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!
I FOUND OUT WHEN I WAS 37 WEEKS PREGNANT...AND SHE WAS TAKEN BY C- SECTION AT
38 WEEKS AND 3 DAYS!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HE TELLS HER...BTW...I SLEPT WITH SOME W H O R E IN IOWA...AND GAVE YOU HERPES II.
I'M SORRY PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME...
BYE BYE! I SAY..BYE BYE
2007-10-11 10:56:22 · answer #11 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋