I know it is probably none of my business about my friend's orientation but I am sooo curious. Is it wrong to be curious? She always seems so uptight all the time and I think maybe if she told someone about whatever is on her mind, she will feel much better. I want to do this now because in the past couple of days I have never felt more closer to her. I just feel it so don't ask me why. Also it is National Coming Out day so I think I should ask her. But what do I say without sounding soo weird and forward? Should I just straight out ask her hey _______ are you gay? Can someone please help me out soon!!!!!
2007-10-11 09:27:19 · 18 answers · asked by Sappho's Nymph 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am straight. It would make no difference to my relationship with her if she told me. I just want to know to suppress my curiosity. I really care about her and want to let her know that I support her and love her no matter who she is or what she does.
2007-10-11 09:34:59 · update #1
just ask him
are you gay
If I said the rest I would be banned
not going to say anthing about the starfish
2007-10-11 09:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just for curiosity sake, I had a look at your other questions that you asked, and you said that you had out rightly hated others that were not straight. Now knowing this, and applying this knowledge to your question about your friend. It very well could be that your friend wants to tell you, but based on your past feelings towards gays and lesbians, she's afraid to tell you. So no matter if you take her on a long walk, or tell her that something seems to be troubling her and that you are there for her, she may still not feel comfortable in telling you anything.
Better to just back off for now, and let her come to you when she's ready.
2007-10-11 09:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really is none of your business; but I understand where you are coming from. I think if you are a good friend, you should be letting her know that no matter what, you will be friends, and that being gay is OK with you. Remember, It's "National Coming Out Day"... NOT "Pull Your Friend Out of the Closet Day." So make it easier, but don't push too hard. If she's gay, It'll happen when she's ready.
2007-10-11 10:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by dutchboydvh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right. It isn't any of your business. You have to ask yourself this: Do you want to know because you want to know? What exactly qualifies you to be helpful in this situation?
Yes. Go ahead and ask her. Straight up.
Or, a better option might be to say, "Hey, sometimes you seem really uptight and bummed out. If there is ever anything you want to talk to me about, just know that I'm here and will do my best to not judge."
2007-10-11 09:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take her on a walk. Tell her you want to know something you are curious about, but you don't want her to take offense. Describe what she does that leads you to believe she is homosexual, -- just kind of lead up to it -- and if she hasn't answered the question by now, just gently ask her. If she is, chances are she won't get worked up about it, rather, she will feel relieved to be out. And no matter what her answer is, I think you should say "Well, you know, today IS National Coming Out Day," and smile.
2007-10-11 09:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think of your buddy is suited, the girl could have a weigh down on you yet only could confirm while you're into ladies. possibly your being shy and not leaping forward made her question your sexuality. communicate over together with her, only strike up a verbal replace. Have an spectacular day!
2016-10-06 12:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my best friend for 10yrs just told me she has been in a 3yr relationship with a girl. I had no clue, but I accept her descision. I say this to say she will tell you once she is ready you just have to be a friend and wait for her to come out. I laughed so hard at my best friend she compared herself to alice from the L-word.
2007-10-11 09:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Asking "Hey ___ are you gay" is putting someone on the spot !
If it doesn't matter - just say. "It doesn't matter to me because I like your friendship, but are you into guys or girls, and you don't have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable"
What's the harm - if you are that good of friends you SHOULD be able to talk about it.
2007-10-11 09:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Animal girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't ask. If you feel comfortable in talking to your friend, I would just let her know that she seems to be uptight about something and if their is anything she ever feels that is bothering her or needs to talk about that you are there for her.
2007-10-11 09:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why not just say to her with a smile ---do you swing both ways ? you know that its national come out day. You can laugh it off if she said no way very quickly. She may want to say something and open up at that point too. good luck...
2007-10-11 09:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps she is uptight because you pry too much.
Be careful about how pushy you are or you might lose a friend. If I were in your shoes, I'd mind my own business.
2007-10-11 09:32:51 · answer #11 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋