Is my wife right to be upset because I gave a ride to a female coworker to a company luncheon?

Question

I have recently bought a brand new yellow corvette and now my wife is furious about me giving a ride to a female coworker to a company luncheon about 2 miles away from work.

I am not in any way attracted to my coworker and may never be (because im happily married and love my wife and even if not for that my coworker is not in the same league or type as me) and my wife has admitted that she knows that too.

But she still feels very upset and thinks that I shouldn't give rides to females in this car (being 2 sitter). From my perspective, this is nothing to even think about let alone fight over, but she is making a very big deal out of it. Is she right to feel this upset over this?

Answer 1

You really shouldn't. It just doesn't look good and if someone was to see you then the rumor mills would start winding.....it's better to not allow your actions to seem questionable. Would you want her to be giving rides to mail co-workers?

Answer 2

I'm willing to bet if you gave rides to your male coworkers your wife wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

Simply put, your wife is not trusting in either your intentions or those of the women your giving rides to. She's assuming these rides will lpotentially ead to other things.

Whether she had valid justifications behind this concern or if she's over reacting is not clear. You haven't provided any reasoning as to why she would have cause behind her feelings other than she knows you're not attracted to your co-worker(s).

Best thing to do is 1). sit down talk about it with her and 2). find out why she's taking this stance, and 3). come to a mutual decision that you can both agree with (a compromise if need-be).

Answer 3

A marriage is such a sacred and valued institution and as a married individual we are always under attack by someone or something. The best choice is for you and your wife to comprimise and be in agreement. It does not matter what we say b/c we are looking from the outside in and it sounds really innocent now but it is better to shut the door and not leave it cracked b/c someone will eventually some in. The next female that asks you for a ride might not be so unattractive and may have more than a car ride on her mind. Have more dialogue with the wifey on this and not with the world.

Answer 4

I'd get upset!! She is not right, but her jealousy can not be stopped by will. It is not like she does not trust you or think that there is something going on with this coworker, but she thinks you are just so good to be ignored by other females. She trusts you, but she still can't keep out of her mind what would SHE(your wife) do in your car and she thinks your coworker might think that too...

Answer 5

Your wife sounds like an incredibly immature and jealous person. Having said that, you are the one who is going to have to live with her and not us. I doubt she will be convinced to let you give rides to any female co-workers just by saying that nothing is going to happen.

You are going to have to give your wife serious attention. I know this was a company sponsored thing so you could not get out of it, but I strongly suggest you go out to lunch with your wife more often. This is gonna sound crass, but maybe you need to even schedule some "nooners" to convince her that she is the only real lady in your life.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Oh, how I wish they had more age settings for these avatars. I have no way of telling if this is accurate, but if you're in your mid-thirties or older, your wife may be scared that this flashy car is just the first step in a midlife crisis that will end with her getting traded in for a newer model, too. Maybe if you take her on a few romantic outings in the 'vette, she'll feel more relaxed about the whole thing. (Come to think of it, that's probably not a bad idea regardless of your age.)

Answer 7

So, you are unhappy in your marriage, and you felt the need to get other womens attention other than your wife's??? Not a smart move!!!!

She has every right to be furious with you, SHE wanted to be the babe in the vette with her hair blowing and laughing and going whooooo hoooooooo with YOU!!!! Are you that mindless????? Why couldn't you take your wife to the luncheon???? Was it for workers only???? What the He**???

Why couldn't this "girl" get a ride from another guy, or did you just have the best looking car at the time?????

I bet you if someone dents it, she will "dump" you for another car. JMO.

And may never be???? What kind of an answer is that?? You are saying that somewhere in time you might be attracted to her because you are married, OMG, you are such a pig!!!!!

Many years back, my husband knew this girl at work and she was known to break up marriages and she was breaking up mine!!!! She was the company tramp!!!!

Her dog died and my husband got a card and signed ONLY his name to it and wanted to comfort her so he bought her flowers!!!! We fought and fought about that, and he was so clueless to the fact that she wanted him, that I had enough of it and left him!!!

Took my daughter, and packed up the car and went way upstate to file for a seperation and a divorce and live near family and be a single mom and be happy, he can have that little tramp downstate!!!!

As it turned out, he realized what he did not have, me and his daughter, and we started talking like adults, and eventually, I made him wait a LONG TIME, eventually, we reconciled and renewed our vows, and now we have been married happily for fifteen years, and have a beautiful 10 year old daughter to boot.

Answer 8

Well I can see her point but I know I have given men rides to company parties and such and never was a big deal. She is nervous about you being with another women but that is something she will need to deal with. Have you given her a reason not to trust you? I would just sit down and say that you would of not given her a ride if you knew it would of made her this mad and that you will be more aware next time someone asks for a ride.

Answer 9

I am a very attractive, well educated and secure woman. With that being said, I WOULD NOT like my husband to give ANY female a ride ANYWHERE by himself. If there is a group of people going somewhere then I wouldn't have a problem. With society today, accusations can happen and then your reputation is ruined. NOONE is worth jeopardizing your job, family and reputation over.

Answer 10

She is entitled to feel whatever way she happens to. As her husband, it is your job to treat her with respect and consideration. If she is uncomfortable with you giving a ride to another woman, you need to discuss it with her and come up with a resolution. It may be you promising not to do it again in the future. Or, the resolution may be you explaining to her why it wasn't a big deal so she doesn't feel uncomfortable with it any more. It may be a compromise, like she wants to know when you are traveling alone with another woman. Her needs and requests are valid because she is your wife. You need to respect her feelings and talk this through with her.

Answer 11

she loves you very much and would be so hurt if some other woman came along and try to steal you away regardless if coworker was in the same league or not. the coworker doens't know she's not your type and doesn't know she' snot in that league. we know the kind of women out there and i agree that the coworker should've drove herself... that is just one little piece for her to start talking to you. if you love your wife and "know her" you're better off doing the things your will want you to do instead of asking why she's mad