I'm a single person in his mid-thirties and was never married nor will I ever get married (just don't tell me you haven't found the right person yet" ). I'm happy as a single person - I date and have healthy relationships with ladies, with whom when I enter a relationship I tell them I have no intentions of getting married, no matter how big the love is - so it's a mutual consensus.
First of all, my family and some friends keep saying "stop wasting you life" and get married once and for all. The other thing I hear from my parents: you should have kids before you turn 40 and we want to be grandparents.
I tell my friends and family that my happiness is defined by me and only by me, and in that defined happiness I include a lifelong non-matrimonal life and no children.
So my question is: Why do people get married? To make themselves happy or just to follow society's trend of getting married since the majority of human beings get married one time or another.
2007-10-11 08:56:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um... I got married because I was in love. That's the romantic view point anyway. From the legal aspect, my husband is Canadian and would have had to go back eventually, and I didn't want to move to Canada (freaking cold). Also, I get great health insurance through his work, and we are each others next of kin in case anything happens.
We don't want kids either. You don't HAVE to have kids just cause you get married.
2007-10-11 09:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real purpose in getting married is ensuring legal rights, which become important if you're going to be with someone for a long time. The right to make medical decisions if a person becomes ill or injured, sharing car insurance, health insurance, life insurance, filing jointly on taxes, splitting up things if you separate and have intermingled finances and property, etc. There are a lot of rights that spouses have that are not granted to people who are just co-habitating or sleeping together, even if the people have been together for a long time.
It's a matter of safety and security. If you have no interest in living with someone for a long period of time, and sharing your life with them, then there's no reason to be married. Enjoy being single and dating, there's no harm in that.
2007-10-11 16:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by raindreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay single with that attitude"my happiness is defined by me and only by me" Looks like you know who #1 is and that would never work in a marriage. So I say Congratulations!!!! You are not a dumb *** who thinks I'll try this marriage thing and see if it works for me. Go and be happy and single!!!
2007-10-11 16:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mel_Luc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
V. D. So you are celebate for life I hope. Otherwise you will have a rude awakening come judgement day ! Sex is for married people.
2007-10-11 16:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋