how do you deal with people you dislike, who you want to avoid, but they try to make 'in roads' into your life

Question

try to involve them unwanted selves into your life, by taunting you, humiliating you, spreading false gossip, misportraying you to others, with the intention of rubbishing your character and defaming you......causing others to perceive you incorrectly.
you know there spreading insults on your character through the grapevine, discrediting you. you no that their doing that to you..

what do you do to handle these degenerate rubbish dump dwellers? especially if you have pride and nobility about you.

because the problem is not with me, but with them trying to involve themselves and infringe upon my life

people like this make me feel angry...but i dont want to react aggressively and ruin my life......i feel sick to the stomach i even have to co exist with them..
my aim ultimatly, above everything else is to emigrate from the uk to somewhere far off in a quiet desert town....with pepsi machines..

so again...how do i react to these tormentors without getting angry or aggressive?

Answer 1

It's amazing how one can take the smallest thing for granted. I can walk a couple blocks in any direction and find a Pepsi machine. But I can't solve your problem just by identifying with you- what I really feel like saying is give it back to them tenfold, start rumors about them- but that would defeat that whole nobility thing, wouldn't it? So all you can do is keep your mind strong and remember, THEY obviously have issues or they wouldn't have to try to put you down to make themselves feel superior...which they aren't. And you are very beautiful in the spirit that I have come to know, so let that be your strength and life, as long as you live up to your own expectations, you are doing well.

Answer 2

Have you heard the old saying, "No man is an island." That means you can not pick certain people and that is the only ones I will deal with. Life is taking the good with the bad. Besides life is to short to worry about what others think about you, do your best and let the chips fall where they may. I have had family members tell me to never come around them, I did what Christ told his disciples. If a town turns you out, knock the dust of the town from your sandals and go on to the next one. There are times when the only one you can count on is yourself, the same with what they believe you have to like yourself.

Answer 3

It depends on the severity of what they are doing. Here in America you can sue or get protection orders if need be.

They exist everywhere, just people with nothing better to do evidentially. Sometimes people do that, because they don't feel good about themselves and their own lives, and so they put their pain upon others. Sad but true. Hopefully you have a support group, a group of friends to help you get through. If its not a life or death issue, then you have to ignore it. If it gets to be to overwhelming, go see a attorney.

Answer 4

You know it is very possible you have suite here, "character assanation" alinating you from the public. You just have to be sure, have witnesses that you might address. I would tell this to someone that will repeat it to him, the best way to let someone know something you don't want to say to him is to tell another person. What do I do? I walk up to them and ask them what the problem seems to be with their character.

Answer 5

look around to see just who it is who are listening to that rude and mean person, and consider those not your friends. And if it seems to be everyone around, then it's time for "you" to move on. Could be they are trying everything they can to get you to move or leave. Could you use some better level friends, then start looking now.

Answer 6

If it were me, I'd have to just ignore those people. You know what the truth is about you and that is what matters. Just because someone says some lie about you does not make it a truth. Hold your head high and know you have nothing to be ashamed of.