How can I get my family to except me as the girl I am on the inside? Pleaze help?

Question

I'm a 14year old, straight guy and like being thought of as one of the girls.
About a year ago I told my Mum I didn't like being a guy and she said it was just my hormones and that it would pass, ok that might be hormones because I only started feeling like that when I was 10 and I have to admit I don't want to be a girl as much anymore but I still didn't really like being treat like a boy so I told my friends about it and they didn't except me so I made some new friends who did, one of them being my exgirlfriend who I told after she dumped me and now they all treat me like a girl but when i'm at home I have to hide all of that because my Mum doesn't really want to except one of her children being transgender or whatever but I hate being thought of as a boy and it's only really my family and people who I don't talk to who think of me as a boy now but I just want my family to except me, I mean when I told my Mum that I wanted to be a girl she had ago at me for it.
How can I get them..

...to except me because I hate being thought of as a boy and I really enjoy being thought of as a girl?

I just want to be thought of as a girl at home so I can just act how I want and be myself rather then putting on an act and acting like something i'm not.
I can act like a girl around my friends but my family I just don't think will except me.

Answer 1

BE YOURSELF ALWAYS that's what my first girlfriend told me. Be proud about yourself keep your chin up and don't worry what anyone thinks.
You're going to have to be really strong to get through all the **** but you sound like you already have the answers.
Take a deep breath
Look inside your soul
You will find the answer is staring right at you.
OK.
Chin up.

Answer 2

are you aerocks_101 (and/or imreallyconfused) by any chance? sorry if you're not, you just just sound kind of similar.

from what you've said, it sounds like she's pretty worried that you might be serious and is hoping you aren't. i think you need to let her know that it isn't just a phase (as long as you're sure it isn't) and explain exactly how you feel and that their are other people in your situation, maybe that would help.

if she's denying what you know and she can't then that means she's worried. it can be quite stressful and even traumatic for a parent to hear it, as she'll probably have 'images' of what transsexual' people are like (jerry springer show, you get the idea) and won't want you to end up like that.

it's likely that she'll also be concerned about 'losing a son', and worried about what the implications would be for her. so i suppose you both might have a lot to think about. try talking to her about it again, the more you bring it up the more she might accept that you're serious. i guess you should try and think about how other people might feel about this, and tread carefully, but she should definitely care about how you feel, it's likely she's just pushing this behind her and hoping it will go away because she doesn't want it to happen. you have to let her know that you're still the same person, and that you still love her and everything, but that you have to go through some changes to be the way you should be.

then again, she could just be transphobic and be in denial that her child is trans, as in the "why did it happen to me?" thing. hope that's not the case, but remember it isn't your fault, and don't lose sight of where you want to be.

take care, i wish you the best

Answer 3

There are several things that you can do. First thing that is good is you do have the support of friends and that is wonderful.

As for your parents, you are not just transgendered, i believe you classify under being transsexual. This is where you don't want to just look like a girl. You believe you are a girl, just wearing the wrong body.

You will need psychological help in transitioning. therefore I would suggest seeking out a psychologist and they can help with your family.

two places you can start to seek your help is URNA (You are not alone) and PFLAG.

Both places can help you start your search and give you AND your family support.

Answer 4

Hun, you need to try and work through how you are feeling, get some info for your mum, to help her understand and seek some professional help. It may be that this is a phase, though personally I doubt, but then I do not know you so hard to say. Look in to how you really feel, find out about options and get professional guidance, time will allow and your mum will accept. The instant fear from anything we dont understand often sparks reaction, education is the way forward hun x Hope things work out for you x Always be proud of you x

Answer 5

Oh, sweetie! What a hard life you must lead. I can't imagine how schizo it must make you feel to have to act one way at home and another outside of home.

What about speaking to your Mum with the assistance of some kind of a counselor? Do you live in a city? If you do (or are near an urban center) then you could probably find a therapist who specializes in gender issues. He or she might be able to help explain things to your Mum and teach both of you a healthy, positive way to communicate about everything.

Good luck to you. You are in my heart.

Answer 6

Hi i am 65 year old crossdresser i started at your age because i felt more like a girl than boy. I now wish i had let my mom and dad know about it and how important is was to me.I dress as a woman now 24/7 So all i can say is well maybe get dressed up in your moms skirt or panties dress etc and let them catch u,this might get the word across to them how much you want it. Good Luck

Answer 7

Some people find it hard to accept .... but then now your Mum already knows, she might find it easier. It can be a shock to a parent to suddenly be confronted with this. Be patient, but be persistent, and above all, be kind to your family.

Answer 8

Consider this quote:

"One of my favorite philosophical tenets is that people will agree with you only if they already agree with you. You do not change people's minds." --Frank Zappa

If your parents won't accept you, then it might be a better idea to spend less time with them and more time with those who do accept you.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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