I had this friend for about 2 years.We Went our seperate ways & had some rough patches.I made pics of her saying bad words & through them around the school.Idid it because we got into an arguement earlier all becuase of me.I'm so spastic!
Well...I kinda want her back.& b/cuz I don't have her that means I don't have Jesseca,Ciara, & Stephanie who I trully miss them.&Veronica.What should I do?
2007-10-11 06:53:17 · 22 answers · asked by Ms.Soviet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, sounds like you're in high school. In hs, most people are attention hungry and run around in cliques, and when you finally decide to grow up, none of these people will matter.
Second, you know what you did was ridiculously immature and you shouldn't have done it, but I can just imagine what she did to justify revenge.
Thirdly, if because one person cut you off, and as a result the rest followed...they were never your friends to begin with. I think you want them back because you want to feel included in the clique again.
All this is unecessary and when you get older you'll realize you stressing over what's already done is stupid.
Sounds to me like you want to follow a group leader...and you don't have much of a personality to hold yourself up. I think you need to focus on your flaws, do what you need to do to make yourself a better person, and then find people who actually understand you, and you shouldn't have rough patches.
My best friend and I have been together for 5 years. Never on and off. She's the only person who truly understands me and puts me in my place when need be. I don't get mad at her because the truth hurts and if you need to hear it, then it should be told. I do the same to her, and we never get mad at eachother. We might be a little hurt by what the other says, but if that person truly loves you as the good friend they should be, then everything will be fine.
You need to let go of those girls because obviously, they weren't worth much of your time anyway. Have you ever seen the movie "13 going on 30?" Take heed to the message in it, and notice that you are pretty much in the same place.
Good Luck.
2007-10-11 07:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Elle Sparks EXiT 9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that a hard thing to deal with ! well heres what you do !
you trace down Jesseca,Ciara, & Stephanie who you trully miss & Veronica& the other girl! then you see if they'll be your friends again
2007-10-11 07:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by hey yall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take this situation as a huge life lesson, and learn from it.
Putting others down and being mean, is very hurtful. The only reason i can think that you'd do this is because you have some unresolved problems and are probably taking it out on others.
THINK before you do or say something rude or cruel.
Work to change... you can.
2007-10-11 06:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you shouldn't have made those photos. People are hard to forgive and forget when their identity is attacked in such a way.
My only advice is, and this doesn't guarantee anything, is to write her a letter of apology, or talk to her in person, and express how sorry you are that you even did something like that and that you'd like to have her friendship back. Worst case scenario? She tells you to piss off. If that's what happens, don't dwell on it, just move on. Life's all about learning from our mistakes, and in time this will heal for yourself and likely you'll forget about it. It'll take a lot of time, and who knows, a couple years from now she'll have it blown off of her and won't be as mad at you as she is now.
Time heals wounds, and allows us a chance to learn from what we do. You might have to let this one go.
2007-10-11 07:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Bozak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lived such things at highschool .. it was terrible to loose a friend and you have no chance to go back.. but if you really love your friend then maybe time can help you to be good friends again.. because everyone deserves a second chance , even you!!!
believe it because belief is the only thing that will keep you trying..
2007-10-11 07:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to your friend and say that your sorry for being immature about an arguement and just discuss with her why it happened and why you want her back as a friend.
If it wasn't only your fault though, make sure you communicate that. Just be honest here.
2007-10-11 06:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by aquariusvchs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, go to school and work on your spelling and grammar. Secondly, if they are true friends, a sincere apology, a group hug and a few tears should resolve the situation. Good luck.
2007-10-11 07:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to her what you did, and why you did it. Admit to her that you made a mistake, and you were wrong. If that doesn't work, try doing something nice for her. It may take some time, but she'll probably forgive you.
2007-10-11 06:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how sorry you are and that you didnt know what came over you becuase if you guys are as good friends as it seems, then she should forgive you
2007-10-11 06:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by bustamove88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋