Isn't it unfair for women ask so much from men?

Question

Women have a need for caring, attention and chemistry from men. Therefore, men are advised to be more sensitive and caring and attentive to womens needs in a relationship.

NOW.. how is this different from advising women to me more detached and sexual? Men have a need for sex.

Why is a womans need for "intimacy" more improtant than a mans need for sex?? Because intimacy is more meaningful? NOT to MEN....

Curious..

"Carrie" I'm a player.. I DO know everything about relationships. I'm here to help other men see the hypocrisy of feminism and the hypocrisy of many women. Too many men put women on a pedistal and need to stop. Thats where I'm coming from.

Answer 1

You're going to get quite the backlash from this question, particularly because of the rather whiny lead sentence. however, I can see past that to understand what you're really asking. We, as women, expect you to be sensitive to our feelings, listen to what we're REALLY saying, be romantic and spontaneous, etc. but you guys would get ripped a new one for asking us to meet your sexual needs, right? Well, you are unfortunately right, there are a lot of double-standards when it comes to men and women.

In college, I studied Gender-Based Interpersonal Communication, which basically means the difference between how men and women communicate. It seemed like all the classes were really just an instructional manual for figuring out the male mind, reading between the lines, etc. It actually never addressed how women could change their way of thinking to make men happy, always quite the opposite. I, for one, have tried to abolish those double standards in my personal life. Yes, I get after my boyfriend when he stays out with his friends all night or when he invites his friends along on what was supposed to be a romantic outing for the two of us, and other classic male things, but I also try to rise to the occasion as a girlfriend as well. I do things I think every man would enjoy- making him a sandwich naked and then feeding it to him while he watches an action movie, LOL, or dressing up for him all nice and sexy when we go out, or just having a nice morning quickie before work, when HIS pleasure is the primary goal for once. He reciprocates by doing the best he can to be a good, romantic, attentive boyfriend. Just yesterday, he brought me daisies (my favorite) for no good reason, and he will watch a sappy romantic comedy with me anytime I want. So I think you're right...women, it can't ALWAYS be about YOU!!! Let your man eat BBQ sauce off you while watching a football game every once in a while, sheesh!!!

Answer 2

Just be shallow. We could argue to the hilt day in and out but reality is what it is. Men on average make less than before and women on average make more than before but men are still required to pay the "entertainment tax". It is like with the federal government, when the fed pays for something it gives them greater say in the matter(it is how the fed gets around states rights). If men have to pay then we have a greater say. Meaning we have the right to be "shallow" aka wanting a more attractive partner. Also it paints the person who doesn't pay in a clearly subordinate role. Because here is the truth about equality. Sure everyone can be equal, but only in direct relationship to the government. Equality between two people has to be earned through mutual respect, honesty and responsibility. Relying on someone else to pay your way is far from responsible. Back in the day it was understood that women had different responsibilities down the road and had limited financial abilities. Hence the tradition. Now men and women have relative income potential and in the short to medium term women on average can and do make more then men on average a good portion of the time(think it is some where around 40-45%). The human ego has a built in fairness meter and the only way to reconcile that in-equality is to view the person as an object which is clearly evident by the modern "hook up" culture.

Answer 3

I find this to be mostly true if a man does not meet a woman's every spoken and more often than not unspoken needs and desires then he is a useless pig or a dog. But just try getting a woman to understand a man's desire for sex or even just a little quiet time and guess what he's a pig yet again. They seem to want equality but it must be at the expense of men and their needs and desires. Men simply are considered a means to an end and are disposable. But to do that to a woman is considered so much more horrible. Just more of what feminism is supposed to be against but only if it affects a woman in a manner that she does not like. Men get marginalized and feminists and a lot of women do not care so long as their desires are met. And yes some women do not get their desires and needs met but some of that is because it is impossible to meet all of a woman's needs and desires especially while being called a pig for not reading her mind and just knowing what she wanted.

Answer 4

I mentioned in another post don't put me on a pedestal, the one about trolls and anti-feminist should reward woman, cause the pressure is too great, it is. The way I look at it is this and I'm not about to mince any words either. Women are created to give men all the sex they need. Why do you think I have a vagina and you have a penis. Yes, that's the way it is even if we woman do lean toward the intimate side of things.

Answer 5

Its a good thing that you do not speak for all men - and the failure is yours for not being able to sustain an intimate relationship. The need for sex will be met when the intimacy level is reached. FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. Its not an either or. A truly good relationship has fantastic sex!

Answer 6

I understand what you're saying, and I think that in the majority of relationships that's definitely what's going on.

The majority of relationships suck though. People are together for the wrong reasons, and they stay together even after they realize it.

In the best relationships I've ever had, I've never really felt deprived of emotional intimacy, and I've been as sexually aggressive as my partner.

I'll tell you a secret too.
If your partner (male or female) doesn't want to have sex with you (on a regular basis), they don't really want to be with you anymore. No matter what they say, how they try to explain it, or protect your ego. Get out.

Answer 7

In a humorous way to look at it. Think of yourself being pounded in the same spot over and over and over. What will happen to it. It gets SORE!! That is the main reason that women want intamacy more than sex. Don't get me wrong, SEX IS GREAT!!!!! But after a few days I just want the kissing and holding part as my intamate part gets a break from the brusing. LOL. Sometimes it takes more than a couple of days to get over the soreness. If you can at all, try to understand that. Your woman will appreciate you for it. Women are not always honest about that because who the heck wants to admit that their intamate spot is way sore. LOL!!!

Answer 8

Again, stereotyping women. I think that in the bedroom, it's good to try all types of sex - detached, sex (aka "f*cking), love making, quickies, and anything else you can think of. When you're in a long term relationship, you've got to get creative and be open to new things. Any woman or man who is not willing to try and fulfill their significant other's fantasies is really asking for trouble.

Oh, so you're a "player" and you know "everything"! Let me bow down, ha! That's silly - one who claims to know "everything" loses all credibility in my book. You cannot be a good judge or critical thinker if you assume you "know everything".

Answer 9

I really don't have an answer for you on that one! In all my relationships I am the one giving and my needs are never met. I never ask for anything either though. I always treat the man I am with like a king. And I love sex so it seemed like I was the one who is never getting enough. I guess I'm an unusual female!

Answer 10

What? No offense, but I think maybe you should actually have a real relationship before assuming you know everything about them. That's not how relationships work, buddy. Men need chemistry and caring too, and women need sex. You just manage to find a way to work it all out with that person - her needs are as important as yours, and vice versa.