How does someone who is shy, stop being so shy?

Question

Being shy has nothing to do with growing up. There are people that are not shy that need to grow up, so don't give me that bullcrap.

I am very shy, I wish I weren't. It has been difficult for me to come out of my shell. I have been working on it. I have classes where we give Power Point presentations and I am getting better about being able to speak in front of people. I just want to stop this nervousness and stuff. A lot of great advice thank you so much

Answer 1

build up your confidence...take it one day at a time and practice. Speak to someone first. Go and ask someone you never have spoken to - ask them a question - Start saying "HELLO" to people at the mall or at your job, etc.

Answer 2

Well I think it is hard but you can do it if you really want to. I don't think that you can just stop being shy. It might take time. You should try and not be shy because later on you might regret not doing things that you really had wished to do. You might be afraid for some time but will have regret for ever. I believe that you will notice that it will feel better after you do something.

Answer 3

Loose your inhibitions! That is to say, discover what inhibits you from being more outgoing and let it go. The dj can dance like no one's looking not because he's a great dancer, but because he's there with the music. Everyone else is there with friends, s/o's, relatives, or potential whatevers-people to impress. Dance like no one's looking and live life not too concerned about what others think. Drunks have zero inhibitions, but you don't need alcohol to be less shy. I'd rather hang out with shy folk than drunk folk.

Answer 4

I used to be incredibly shy. The only person who really notices now is my partner and that is because he knows me so well and sees things others do not.
I really liked people and enjoy there company so i had to overcome it. I also joined a womens speech group called penguines. Are you in Australia.? They were lots of fun and mostly older women who had lived great lives. You have to choose to do it. It has nothing to do with confidence in my opinion as I am a very confident woman. Be certain about your beliefs and values, accept who you are and it will come naturally sweetie. Be happy :)

Answer 5

I used to be a very shy person unitl I met my husband. He is very outgoing and can strike up a conversation with anybody. For me the best way to overcome being shy was to just start talking to people. It was something that was very hard for me to do but I forced myself to do it. It has helped a great deal and I no longer stress over meeting new people or striking up a conversation with a stranger.

Answer 6

As you get more experience interacting with others or speaking and presenting before others you build self-confidence. I was painfully shy in school, but I eventually became tired of putting myself out of benefits that others enjoyed because I was too self-conscious to participate. I began to focus more on the importance of my contribution to discussions, to the benefits of my speaking when necessary (say, to get clarification of teacher instructions), and to the help that I might be to others who themselves may have been too shy to speak when necessary.
In short, you just have to focus on priorities. Being shy nets you nothing, except a silly and false sense of safety. Being confident, on the other hand, pays much better rewards. You need to work on techniques to control your shyness. I simply overcame it by the sudden realization that others can think what they want of me---I'm a good, rational, reasonable person, so if some other wanted to think poorly of me, he/she would have very little worth ridicule or denigration to work with.

Answer 7

I was shy myself for a long time. Until I met new friends and and started hanging out with people that didn't care what other people thought about them. I opened up by just being myself (which I was scared to do before). And it feels great. You just have to bite the bullet sometimes and just put yourself out there.

Answer 8

I am still kinda shy but not as much as before now Im more outgoing I stopped being shy because my friend jamie was so out going and she always told me that why be shy b more out going who cares whos watching they dont know you and screw who ever calls you names ur having fun and thats all that matters =)

Answer 9

You have to be willing to risk making a fool of yourself. Truly, doing so is not going to be the social suicide you think it is.

I took some drama classes in summer school that forced me out of my shell. The acting exercises are very silly and its impossible to hide.

There is no rescuer in this situation except yourself.

Answer 10

I think that to get over shyness is to first change your thoughts. I am shy around social areas sometimes, but as you grow older, you come out of your shell. So what if you think that people with criticize you; that's what humans do anyway. You don't have to walk around egg shells to impress people, they should want to know you in being yourself. If they don't like it, then it's thier loss! :D

Answer 11

It's all about the confort zone. You just have to step out and be uncomfortable for a few mins while you dip your foot in the water of expressing yourself. No one is completely confortable the first time, but it gets easier each time yo do it.