And at the same time keep her from making the moves on my husband ? She might move into the apt. complex. I want to be a Christian witness to her but I do see attempts by her to flirt with my husband.
2007-10-11 05:26:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a thing called Triage. It is a medical term used to categorize a large volume of victims needing treatment at the same time. Like in a plane crash. Those that are going to be okay and can wait are put on a wait list. Those that are going to die no matter what you do will just be made to be comfortable. And those that have a good chance to survive if given aid right away are given the most and immediate attention. Your !7 year old girl is not a good candidate for immediate treatment. I doubt that she will be saved right now and may even bring disaster to your marriage. If she is close by then keep her "close by". I mean, she is not what I would call a person who makes good and/or unselfish judgments. maybe if you witness others around her it might be more effective. She is not ready okay? Good luck!
2007-10-11 05:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 17 years old close to 18, she can now make her own decisions and you could still witness to her and also let her know what she is doing trying to flirt with your husband is not right. That now she has to see life for herself and take care of her and her baby and now she dont have time to be trying to flirt with someone elses husband. Still be kind to her speak but dont have a close relationship with her she still has growning up to do alot!!
2007-10-11 12:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by hershey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all did she ask you for help? Is the baby your husband? Have you seen her flirting with your husband?If you answered no to al the above then stay out of it. And why do you feel like you have to keep here away from your husband has he cheated on you before?Why are you so worried about her moving in on your husband?
2007-10-11 13:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straightforward that you do not condone her flirting with your husband and do not allow her to be alone with him. Let her know how much you want to help her through this tough time, but she has to play by your rules. If you continue to see problem behavior, your marriage is more important and refer her to a local crisis pregnancy center or if your church has a program for unwed mothers.
You can offer to help, but only she can make the choice if she wants to accept it on your terms.
2007-10-11 12:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can help her be trying to find another apt for her, yes you may want to help her but think about your family. and if you say that you want to be a christian witness then have a little faith in your husband. i does not make sense that you worry your pretty little head and your husband is not giving in on her advances. but you should let your husband know that you do not like the way she presumes herself to him so he can either avoid her or tell her that the way she talks to him is inappropriate
but i should ask has your husband cheated before that is why you are so insecure
2007-10-11 12:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by ABBY 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A real christian would invite her into her home. Your husband (christian?) should know to do the right thing also...I mean he cant get her pregnant. But I guess it could already be his?? Why do you think she moving next door?âºâºâ»
2007-10-11 12:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her get in contact with women's resource center so she can obtain the services of a good attorney to file for child support and medical payment assitance from the babie's father. He played so now he will pay for the next 18 plus years.
2007-10-11 12:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know what you want to do, and see what he says... you could tell him you feel she is vulnerable and might try to "lean on him" for support a little too much.
I think that in this situation, maybe you need his input too?
It's very kind of you to want to be of help to the girl. take care.
2007-10-11 12:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow.......
Bring her into your life and see what happens.....
My neighbor had something similar happen, so I set the other "woman" up with a friend, but I made it very clear to my neighbor that if she insisted upon having that "woman" in her life then I wouldn't bail her azz out again and if she lost her husband then it was her own fault.
2007-10-11 12:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bring her into your home. My mother tried to help a young girl, brought her in our home, treated her like a daughter, and she took my father. Dont make that mistake.
2007-10-11 12:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by MM 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋