How do you deal with hating people aside from therapy and God? lol?

Question

I'm only 25, but let's face it, you go through alot and you learn alot about humans and human nature. Many people suck, are screwed up, have agendas/motives, and are complicated, and only a total DOPE can't see this, or young people, who are clueless themselves.

I literally have come to the point where I literally hate people (not all), but I almost expect the majority of people I encounter to suck, at least in one way, if not more, and finding "god", and even therapy, can't really help ya. I mean, why take DRUGS, to deal with your own negative feelings?

I also find the whole mental illness/chemical imbalance thing a crock in a sense becuase not every negative person out there is mentally disturbed. That's laughable science. It's like saying, we're not allowed to be in bad moods anymore, since the mental health I N D U S T R Y business, wants us to think that.

They should open their eyes more and realize the complexity of life, before labelling people who see truth as nuts.

Finding GOD cannot also "stop" others from "sucking." Very very simply put.

Therefore, there has to be another way, aside from getting cynical and just hating everyone.

Answer 1

I'm also 25 and tend to have the same attitude you have also. Yes, people suck, and they can take advantage of you, some some actually ARE out to get you, or someone anyways, just because THEY are angry too.

Just know that not ALL people are *ssholes. Actually, I think that a majority or the good people tend to stick to themselves, which is why it seems like they don't exist because they aren't doing anything stupid or getting into your business to get noticed.

Something I need to work on as well, but maybe be less angry/bitter and more outgoing (assuming you're an angry/bitter person based on your question.) Be guarded and protect yourself, but not so much so that you end up locking EVERYONE out.

I'd say meet some people at church, but the sad fact is, is that not even half of the people that go to church are even good people, so even then, it's a 50/50 or less that you'll meet a genuinely "good" person.

Seems like this is more of an empathetic answer than an objective "do this" kind of answer. Oh well.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

So you hate them, do you have to focus on that just because its there?

while a friend is round visiting and asking for help .. do you:
a) focus on the point they have come round to use you
b)appreciate the compliment that they thought you were good at whatever so asked you
c) enjoy their company and help them because in other ways they will help you out (even if you dont get to demand what it is they are prepared to do to help, greater or lesser)

there are a number of ways of seeing the same thing, and Im sure I aint cover them all.. Two of them are more positive - it seems that you would see the first tho. Why do I think that?
Although your right many people, perhaps all are like this to an extent, whats yours for hating near all people?

What would your agenda be for spreading this around?
Whats your motive?

Yea all people have failings - for some is bad grammar or spelling, for others its not giving to them when they want it, and if you fail to set sufficient boundaries then twonks will take the mick.If you judge badly and treat badly from go then some people will act badly - theres trust and theres giving to much and getting hurt when its not reciprocated (which is often done by the naive) not that many are that bad, most are in between and thats just fine - people need a bit of bad side, its just part of the way things work.

Your failing is in immediately expecting another to be a twonk - but does that make you bad? your just unbalanced (you've shifted to far to hate) sorry but thats what comes across - you need to time to heal and to be ok with that not everyone is going to be totally upfront and sometimes they want things - just like you do. You need to stop feeding your hate, and looking for reasons to hate - you focus on that so much I dont think your going to need to do that for quite a while .. find a middle ground that makes it ok for people to be people and for you to just be as well.

* try turning your cynicism on your self .. see what you find.

Answer 3

Wow, you really are pessimistic. Sounds like you are hanging around the wrong people. I know there are a lot of sucky people out there, but there are a lot of really good people too. In fact, that is a criteria for me to even socialize with someone. If you aren't a decent person, I don't want anything to do with you. I WILL, of course, be cordial. They just won't be coming to my parties and I won't be hanging out with them. You have to do a couple of things: 1 - you have to choose to spend your time with positive people. However, people generally only associate with the type of people they want to be, so if a positive person sees your negativity, they won't want to hang with you. 2 - you need to change you attitude. You get what you expect most of the time. You see the negative characteristics because you expect them. Spend the next 21 days, only noting the positive characteristics about someone, i.e she was really nice to give him a ride home when his car broke down; he has a really nice tie on; she could have kept that wallet she found, but she was honest enough to turn it in...etc. Once you change your self talk and who you associate with, you should see some changes.

Good luck, it's not easy going through life hating.

Answer 4

God is THE God of second chances, He loves all people, He loves the murderers, the terrorists, the pope, the stars, it is all a matter of whether or not you love him. Think about it, if you had 2 kids, one who was really nice and always listend and the other was a brat and grew up and killed a whole bunch of people, would you love the kid any less than the one who was sweet and obeyed??? God loves everyone, and that will nver change, no matter what you have done, will do, or are doing, he loves you just the same... if you keep looking, He will find you and bring you home :)

Answer 5

Everything IS what it IS. What you are missing is the fact that hate, judgment and negativity all arise within you! When IT arises in you, you begin to blame it on everything outside of you!

Answer 6

Just ignore them and go about your business. That is what I do

Answer 7

Narcissist- no one will ever be good enough for you, will they?

Answer 8

to deep

Answer 9

"HE WHO ANGERS U CONTROLS U AND THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL"