Since we've been going through this arguement for the past three days, I don't know how she's feeling.For those who don't know, this is regarding the last two questions I asked that everyone may read.Every morning I'll call home to see how she and my son are doing.I leave earlier in the morning so I'm not sure if they're running late or just to say good morning.Now she hasn't called me since we got into the arguement.I had another child with another woman a few years ago and that happened just as my wife and I started dating, officially.I didn't find out until almost 1 year later.So she feels that I cheated on her.I would never do that but I guess I did.Now she uses that, and I guess she can, against me.Since then we've held on to each other.I can't lose her over things like my families life choices or other things I may not have control over.We've been through so much together and had plenty of good times.But still what can I do to convince her that we can still make things work?
2007-10-11 01:25:14 · 8 answers · asked by aaronf_8212 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you need to show yourself trustworthy. You can talk talk talk all you want, it's actions that speak.
SHOW yourself trustworthy. Let her know where you are at all times. Reassure her (and do it often) that she is the only one on your heart and in your head. Give her soft tender kisses often and tell her you love her.
2007-10-11 01:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone and let her make up her own mind about the future, I'm quite sure their are a few guys out there she slept with with out your knowledge prior to getting married.
There is a very good chance she's angry because she wanted to share the first child, first this and that with you, this sudden news has basically destroyed her "dreams"
The only thing you can do is reaffirm your love and give her some time to grasp the whole situation,
If this is in fact new news, then she must understand this does not effect your future together, just means you need to start paying child support and take part in the child's life if you all three decide that that is the thing to do....
2007-10-11 01:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by jerry kaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebuild trust with her. Let her know she can trust you. That will count for a lot. And try a counselor. There is nothing wrong with getting a marriage counselor and talking some things our with an unbiased third party.
You have to convince her of how much better your life is with her in it. Hope things work out for you two.
2007-10-11 02:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's got more issues going on than just your family. I just read your other two questions, and to me it seems that with the changes you've made in your life, there's more going on with her than she's telling you. Both of you could benefit from some counseling. And if she won't go with you (shame on her if she won't - what's she scared of?), go alone.
2007-10-11 01:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by N L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to marriage counseling. It is really not fair, that she is holding something against you, that was done before the two of you were together.
2007-10-11 01:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is resentful. Try going to couseling. That may help.
2007-10-11 02:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a second Honey moon.
2007-10-11 01:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like SHE needs some help.as in counselling
2007-10-11 01:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by berlytea 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋