i'm 19 and i want to lose my virginity with my bf who is 23 and not a virgin.we r very much in love and he has been really patient and understanding......i know he'd b very gentle with me.i just wanna know how much it really hurts?
2007-10-10 22:40:42 · 7 answers · asked by Pixie-Flames 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
There can be pain when the hymen breaks upon penatration. There can also be some blood. I did not bleed the first time but there was a whole lot of pain, enough so that we didn't even finish what we started and had to wait for another day.
The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the vagina if you're a virgin. I say "sometimes" because, even if you haven't had sex, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It's not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)
For some, the first few times make you feel sore, as it's been an unused muscle or even hurt, if you aren't properly lubericated, or if the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.
Relaxing, foreplay, being fully aroused or better yet, you having an orgasm FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.
2007-10-11 08:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert but for me personally, it didn't hurt at all. The only uncomfortable part was the beginning, getting used to his size. After that I was fine.
But every woman is different and I'm sorry I can't be of more help.
(Also, I would assume that if you use tampons it wouldn't hurt as much because your hymen may already be broken)
2007-10-10 23:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I lost mine, and it didn't hurt at all, but I did feel a little strange ... I think that lubricant and lots of foreplay are a very good idea.
2007-10-10 23:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi
as long as you take your time plenty of foreplay and maybe some extra lubricant and try to relax all should be fine and from experience when i lost mine it didn't hurt and practice makes perfect after the first time it will only get better.
good luck
mandyx
2007-10-10 22:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by suziesunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and can't really answer if it hurts but I sincerely want to wish you the best of luck.
2007-10-14 05:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sirius70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didnt hurt as much as i thought it would.. its just awkard at first when you are getting used to feeling him inside of you..but once you adjust is all good.
2007-10-10 23:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost mine at 25 it did hurt and i had try many times.. be cool when you do it, no tension and dont tighten your muslces ..
use lube, he should be gentle and keep trying..
2007-10-11 00:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋