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Question

I am not a senior citizen yet but I am married just about 14 years. My question is does sex get more important or less important as a marriage progresses, or it is the closeness, comradship and companionship that binds you and your partner in unity?

Answer 1

At 43 Years of marriage I would have to agree with CJ above to some extent but we have found that companionship has moved up the ladder many rungs and sex has moved down the ladder quite a few rungs.

We have learned that intimacy does not require sex but that doesn't mean that I can pass by her without a pat on the backside or some kind of a caress.

It seems that our love has grown stronger with the years but it has become sweeter since we both came to know Jesus as personal Savior.

Answer 2

You got a bunch of good answers. It's really not more or less important, but it changes and becomes much more emotionally intense as we learn to know each other completely. The affection and love has grown so much after thirty years that the sex has become (it's hard to find the right word)--but easier in a way. We can turn each other on with a glance. There's nothing that's too embarrassing to say. We read each other's minds and bodies. How we look becomes less important because we have learned the inner beauty that far exceed superficiality. Although we're both nearly 60, my wife has never looked more stunning because I now see all of her--not just the surface. Sex is better, but I struggle with the concept of "more or less important." The marriage has deepened so much I just don't know how to rank the importance of sex. This rarely happens, but words fail me.

Answer 3

I'm proud I've lived this long. I don't know if I can honestly say I'm proud. But then I wouldn't want to be 50 again and live through what i did. So. I guess yea, I am proud to be a senior. Hey, I enjoy that 10% discount. HA Donya and I are the same age 2nd

Answer 4

It's everything. It's a closeness that only love can define. Yes, sex should get better, but many couples it sort of gets pushed to the side. that does not mean you are not still in love with that person, it just means that that , that is not your priority in your marriage. Sharing, having the same interests and being good friends is very important. It's becomming one person, if you can understand what I mean, that is the most important.

Answer 5

These two answerers are just great! Many young people think that sex is what marriage is about. WRONG! It's a part of it, but if you can't be bestfriends and be honest w/each other there is a problem. All of what you mentioned is just what a marriage is about. It's not 50/50 as you've found out. It is a JOB! Both have to work at it to make it work out! :^)
Best wishes!

Answer 6

hi i'm not quite a senior yet either, but think i am sitting on top of the hill lol! in answer to your question i , in my realationship have found that sex is not all that important. it has taken me all these years to understand true love. unconditional love. i think you hit the spot in asking if it is the closeness, and the companionship. for us,my partner and i, definately.i could rave on for ages if i had the correct skills so will just leave it at that. soulmates.

Answer 7

Due to natural lowering of testosterone for men and estrogen for women, I think the strong physical urge (not desire) has a tendency to be lessened, however, the strong “emotional” bond of love making is still as strong if not stronger that it was in younger years. I think that this is the case because of the years of sharing and companionship that has taken place between two people. It’s icing on the cake.

Answer 8

I am a senior citizen and if you are spiritually fit then the answer to your question, is : ALL OF THE ABOVE, sex is just as important (neither more nor less).

Answer 9

Quality is better than quantity