one of my friends got pregnant from her boyfriend of 3 months. she says they love each other and all that stuff. she really doesnt think he will leave her with the baby, however i know it happens often. i dont want to make her feel bad but i really think she made a bad decision, and she has only been with him for 3 months! she is rich so she says shes wont have a hard time supporting her baby. i dont know if i should tell her that she really ****** up or what. she made a very bad decision, am i right?
2007-10-10 18:44:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
shes only 16!
2007-10-10 19:11:39 · update #1
well i know you are her friend but it was her decision to make.
just be a good friend and support her.
2007-10-10 18:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you think she made a bad decision, its ok to tell her how you feel, however don't judge her for her decision. Just be there for her as her friend no matter what she does. Some people are ready to be parents at younger ages although it isnt necessarily a good idea. But I was a teen mom at 18 and I am raising my son very well. Things do happen for a reason though too. Maybe that baby will make her life better. Me having my son truly changed my life in a good way cuz I had to settle down and become more responsible.
2007-10-10 19:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by caligurl24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point it's done. As much as you think she made a mistake, it is her baby, and her life. Now you should be supportive. If you focus on her mistake, then your friendship might become strained. Hopefully the father IS a good guy and will stick around. But if he isn't, then hopefully you will be there for her and continue to be a great friend. If you feel the need to verbalize your feelings to her, tell her you are worried about her, but you will support whatever decision she makes.
2007-10-10 18:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by goshrks07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, they probably don't truly love each other and she will probably end up alone. She is her own person and she can make her own decisions, it's not your place to tell her whats right and wrong. Besides, she wouldn't listen anyways... especially if she really thinks they are in love. Just leave her alone, in due time she will realize what you know. If you did tell her, there is a chance she would turn on you saying you were jealous or something ridiculous like that and that could ruin your friendship. It's better to keep things like that to yourself. It's her life, her choices..... her buisness. Whether it is right or wrong.
2007-10-10 18:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by babymama. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep an open ear and an open shoulder and be there for her no matter what happens. just dont make her feel bad about her decisions because we all make poor choices in our life and we would all want the same respect.
2007-10-10 18:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's too late now, she's going to have a baby and he's going to be the father. Just support her and be honest if she asks you your opinion but be gentle. Don't ruin your friendship. I'm sure she knows what a mistake she made.
2007-10-10 18:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Precious 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether it's 'true love' and if the boyfriend is committed. Let her find her own path and if things get rocky, lend her a hand.
2007-10-10 18:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her figure it out for herself. He may stick with her and he may not, it's really only up to him. She will soon find out the difficulties as they arise. Trust me, that's punishment enough.
2007-10-10 18:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Naketa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should just be there for her no matter what happens. bottom line - there's a baby coming! enjoy being an auntie or uncle!
2007-10-10 18:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by The A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋