Adults- did you enjoy your teen years?

Question

I hate to admit, I hate high school...... its very hard, esp at my school with all the little cliques, drugs, parties, sex, etc.
im 15 and im proud of myself for not being involved with this stuff but i find myself longing for highschool to be over...
i feel like i don't fit in b/c i don't do those bad things i listed above. my old friend from freshman year smokes cigarettes now and she was having sex at this guy at my school's house with him and like 10 guys banged on the door while they were doing it and then they eventually got in and saw them having sex so she transferred schools..i can name 2 people who have gotten pregnant in my grade at my school. woops i am going off topic but anyways how was your teen years? highschool sucks right now is college any better? i only have 1 close friend in high schoool it sucks.

o and the girl i talked about above used to be sooo innocent i dont know what happened to her..she has really low self esteem though and insecure.

Answer 1

The great thing is, 5 days after you graduate, all the stupid things of high school really become insignificant. Who you went to prom with, who dated who, and all that other stuff really becomes completely insignificant in the real world.

You don't get a better job for being prom queen. Don't worry about being 'cool', just do things to help you get in a good college. Join lots of clubs, even if it is considered a 'nerdy' club. Do volunteer work. Study hard and get good grades.

If you don't end up going to college, your high school grades really don't matter. A 4.0 and a 2.5 is still a high school diploma. No employer is going to ask your high school GPA. The real world is based on your true abilities and your experience.

Ignore idiots in your high school. The 'cool' kids will be the ones working at McDonalds when the 'nerdy' kids roll up in their nice new car with their great new jobs. Life gets a lot better after high school.

Answer 2

Because most adolescents can't wait to grow up, when in reality, being an adult can suck just as much. You gain an additional set of rules, and though no longer under your parent's thumb, have to now, obey the gov't to an extent. Not to mention that the strerotypes never truly end. And the responsibilities become endless. Car payments, mortgages, taxes, etc etc etc... When you become an adult, you wish you had enjoyed your life more as a teen and vice versa...Adulthood has its perks, but so do the teen yeas. And from your end, being an adult looks way better than being a teen...but trust me, the grass is always greener on the otherside. It's great that at 14, you know where you want to go, what you want to do, how much it's going to cost you to get there, but things change...you could change your mind next year, you could change your mind in 10 years...always make sure you have a backup plan. And adults have been there, been through what you're going through right now, and they have years of experience. So a lot of times, they know what they're talking about, even when you think they don't have a clue. Seriously, unless you have some insanely strict parents, life will get better in the next couple of years.

Answer 3

Hm, I'm not sure if I'm qualified to answer this question or not. I'm 18 (still a teen), but I already graduated high school and am currently a freshman in college.

Why don't I take a stab a it anyway? I enjoyed my senior year of high school, and that was really pretty much it. I tell my little sister, who is currently a sophomore, that this is how I would define each grade level:

Freshman: Awkward (everyones changing/adjusting)
Sophomore: Boring
Junior: Difficult (college searching/coursework-wise)
Senior: Just a blast

When I was a freshman I had only 2 friends, and by the time I graduated high school I was not friends with either of them anymore. It wasn't until I was a sophomore that I found a group of people I felt like I fit in with (we stayed friends until we graduated, and are still friends now even though we rarely see each other).

I know that it seems like all of the kids are partying, doing drugs, and having sex, but I promise you that is not the case. If everyone you associate with is like this, perhaps you've gotten mixed into the wrong crowd? Of course in high school there's always going to be 1 or 2 girls each year that make it known that they're pregnant. There's not much that can be done about it - all high schools are like that.

I can tell you for certain that I don't like college better than high school. There's much more pressure on you to do well in school. In high school when I'd get a C on a test, it was acceptable. In college if I score anything below a B+, it's noted by me and everyone around me that I need to try harder. There's not sympathy, and it's hard to feel like a person as opposed to another number.

Just look around for people you can relate to, and it will make your high school experience a lot more fun.

By the way, I'm still a virgin, I've never been to a real party, and I've never ever tried drugs.

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your friend.

Answer 4

I just graduated last May. I miss high school so much. I hated it while I was there because I wasn't exactly a social butterfly although i was well liked by peers and I didn't keep many close friends only like 2 in school. And I couldn't stand the drama. I would give just about anything to go back now because I'm so depressed at times. My close friends moved away for college one to a different state and the other only to the next town over (but I don't really trust her because she's gotten into some drugs and alcohol abuse) while I stayed here to go to a community college. Thankfully I still have my fiance, although he'd graduated like 4 years before me. But try to make the best of high school trust me you can get through those years without all that bad stuff, I did. Try joining some good clubs and doing things like that. Good Luck and best wishes. If you want to talk you can e-mail me via my profile page

Answer 5

I ha a really nice childhood, but then my life radically changed when I was 9.
My life suddenly became an uphill battle.
My parents were physically and emotionally abusive, and also extremely neglectful.
So throughout the entirety of my adolescence I was struggling to keep my sister and me alive.
School was very hard for me, I was never any good at making friends, and the only people that I ever managed to get a long with were the seriously messed up goth kids.
So my friendships really hurt me, I ended up drinking a lot, even during school hours.
Eventually I got kicked out of school for having pain pills in my backpack, and I just cut off all ties with my old friends.
That year, I started talking to the guy who I'm now engaged to, he became my best friend, and we started dating.
He took care of me, and he helped me take care of my sister.
He protected us from our parents, and he gave us a place to stay (He was 21, I was 16, and Mac, my sister, was 9)

To this day, pretty much he and my sister are all I've got.
I have a few other friends, but they really aren't long haul type friends.

College is a lot better than high school, it's harder, but you have so much more freedom.

Things will get better, so don't worry.
Good luck.

Answer 6

I miss my high school days. My friends were nice and my French teacher was the friendliest person I've ever met. In those days I was interested in music and films. These days, those things don't seem that interesting anymore. I'm 22. Be proud of yourself for not taking part in sex or drugs. I never took part in those things either. I've graduated from college. Something good about college is that I didn't have to do exams, unlike high school. I miss my teenage years - what happened to all the nice people?
Anyway, work hard and you'll get more friends in the future.

Answer 7

I had a very difficult home life, so did not enjoy my teen years. I lived with alcoholic parents and brothers. Life was hell. I also worked after school everyday, so it was stressful. Anything was better than going home.

The school was the same as yours. I didn't associate with anyone who was into drugs, drinking, etc. because I just wanted to get the whole high school thing over and done with. I graduated. That was all that counted.

Answer 8

I am 43.. I was shy in school and was picked on.. I never did bad things because being shy nobody asked me to.. lol (thank goodness)
so ya my teen age years sucked.. but NOW its great.. I have the things I really want.. 10 acre farm, horses, a tiny rescued kitty on my lap right now (caught wild...all my other kitties are spayed and neutered of course) sheep, free range hens in the summer .. its great.. (I was a city kid who always wanted the country)..
anyhow.. speaking of off topic.. just keep being true to yourself.. in the end a lot of people mess up their life because of stupid things in school.. some dont even live long enough to know good times ahead...

Answer 9

Well, high school, honestly it was alright! Lol and I'm definitely proud of you, your on of the people in the world who is one the right track. Congratulations! And you should be proud to! But you know even if you don't like it, it's all apart of life. And life isn't always great, but when you look back on your life when your like 90 lol you'll be proud that you lives such a happy and successful life, even though all of it wasn't amazing!

Answer 10

There were so many emotions and changes going on in my teens that I didn't enjoy them like I should have. I was an emotional wreck half the time. By the time I was in my early 20's, I was feeling so good and confident. I was working, married, and starting my family. Best time of my life was my 20's.