i asked this question already but still looking for a serious answer, and some experience-based advice...
when i first saw her i thought she was beautiful...but wasnt sure if she was a student or teacher..then she walked in the club i cofounded and learned she was a professor...im 19 and shes probably in her late twenties.....silly me, i didnt introduce myself coz i was nervous....i know it isnt right to 'hit' on a professor, but i wanna get to know her... im confused whether to try or just keep my distance?
(im a smart student but i noticed i always crush on teachers and get frustrated with girls my age)
2007-10-10 15:54:53 · 23 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's not like college professors don't fall in romantic liaisons with their students. But this might be a case of unrequited love--so prepare yourself should she be one to follow campus policy forbidding such relationships.
That's NOT to say, though, you can talk to her; get to know her better in some platonic way. And maybe---just maybe---chemistry existent between you AND HER might spark.
But be the smart student and prepare for matters should this BE a case of unrequited love. When in doubt, maybe it's best to move on and find your target older women---and there's aplenty who get turned on by younger men.
2007-10-10 16:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you appreciate more grown up intelligent women, but try and find one your age. They are out there. Maybe in your own class. The fact is there's a tremendous difference between any 19 year-old and a 20 something. You may not believe it now, but went you are older you'll see clearly. A student your age could not relate to a professor on the level needed for a lasting relationship. If she wanted anything to do with you in that way, she would be just like all the stupid girls your age.
2007-10-10 16:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by SpaceGirl009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you never know what can happen unless you go see for yourself. I wouldn't worry too much about what to say other than introducing yourself and saying hi, as she is older than you and has probably heard it all before. If she is your instructor it is unethical for a teacher in a position of authority to have a relationship with a student, but there is a grey area if she isn't because you are both adults.
2007-10-10 15:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rational Humanist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admire her from afar. Don't flirt with her in class, just treat her with respect. It's okay to think a teacher is beautiful, it's when you go off and have children that's the problem! So treat her like any other student would treat her and ask her simple questions like "So how was your weekend?" You will seem like a nice guy and a good student.
Hope this helps! =D
2007-10-10 15:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Moi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a mature guy. I am a female, and i tend to be attracted to older guys because I guess they know what they are talking about-so just letting you know that you are not alone. I will suggest not doing anything until next semester. I'm guessing that you are in college, and you will not have her next semester, so get to know her now and then see where things from there. Teachers are humans too, and you don't control who you fall for-so don't feel like there's anything wrong.
2007-10-12 10:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could introduce yourself, but if she is a professor she is not going to treat you the way she might someone who is not a student(someone older then her probably) Most women(I am 47), and I can tell you from my years of dating that women her age normally will be attracted to guys older then themslves.
2007-10-10 16:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Age is just a number and her status at college only makes her more attractive to you-she's obviously intelligent and that's enough for alot of people. Strike up a conversation with her, get to know her and ask her out...get her opinion on dating and don't give up! Follow your heart and extend her your love and affection. You'll be surprised about the results. Good luck to you!
2007-10-10 15:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by cwgrrl7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get to know her, just introduce yourself. Then you can build a friendship on that, and may be if she's interested too, you could progress from there. It doesn't matter the age of the person you like or love, it just matters about how you feel about the other person.
2007-10-10 15:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kerri J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to lay off for a while on your professor. Maybe the girls your age aren't as mature as you are and hence your frustration? I can relate- except I'm younger and not a guy!
2007-10-10 16:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by JUUUULIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce yourself. See if she agrees with you. If so, get to know her. If not, you will get over it. You are a man now - not a child. You have to see yourself as a man not as a student or child or club owner but as a person interested in another human being.
2007-10-10 16:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by Makes Sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋