How do *you* get over someone?

Question

I've lost a lot of people this summer, and it also recently hit me that I've lost my sister, as well. And now, I'm having trouble dealing with it.

How do *you* get over missing people?

Four people have died. 4 friends have disappeared. And several have either stopped being "social," and refuse to talk to me, or have simply decided that they don't want me in their lives, anymore.

Answer 1

I also lost someone this year I never experience anything like that all i do is think about all the moments we had together all the memories we had. Remember they are gone but never forgotten they will always be in our hearts.

Answer 2

I don't deal with grief well Yay. Mostly it is just have this magic tortouse shell that I pull over and it seals me in until the shelling stops or goes away. I don't know where it goes. I hope nobody ever opens that locker.

You are a well adjusted, however with a brilliant personality and expressive emotions. If you can mend these situations then mend them, but I really think it isn't worth too much self reflection... at least I have never benefited from it as I am my own worst critic and *you can't hide in a bomb shelter from yourself*. (unless you have a dual personality disorder) ..... Oh yeah.. what that guy in the brckets just said is true.

Answer 3

im not sure what u mean by losing
if it is in regaurds to them leaving for school marriage or general life events then the saying if you love some one set them free and you can never lose a love or a true freind there is always events that will bring you togather man i havent seen my best freind or even talked to him in over 20 years i have no idea what or where he is but i beleive he would say as i am going to say he is my best freind today and i hope he has many best friends
if they leave you always keep there highest bleasings in your heart if you beleive in a god then ask for the spirt of love and protection to watch over your freind


now i lost my 22 year old son 3 years ago was on his birthday that he was killed he was also one of my best freinds and i miss him everyday i pray i never do not miss him i talk to him all the time however maybe we are closer now than before yet i stilll cry for me
because of my lose i know he is much better now i say that he finished his job on earth and is somewhere else taking care of his soul
many people have family and friends in the military etc and forced into seperation
so please extend your best wishes to your loved ones even if they never know about it you know what youve done peace

Answer 4

it's not something you can really just do. people will tell you to get something else to do to occupy your thoughts, or eat chocolate or something, but it won't work. the only way you really get over missing someone is to grow up. you have to just grow in yourself and realize that you can be yourself without them, even if you would like to have them. you have to realize that life goes on. and yet, appriciate what you had with whoever it was, and know that it too is part of who you are now.

but about this siter of yours- i dont know if she's really dead, or if she's just ignoring you or whatever, but all i can tell you is that death can not take a person away from you- thats what praying is for. you can still apologize for anything you ever did to a person or make ammends even if you can not affirm that they can hear you. trust me, you will feel a sense of peace. and if she is still living, then don't worry- there is always hope for a relationship- always.

;) GOD BLESS

Answer 5

There is no exact way to get over someone you lost. It is all a process of grief. You go through the grief process at your own time and pace. Denial->anger->bargaining->depression
->acceptance. You can keep yourself occupied perhaps to lessen the pain but just know that only time and your determination can overcome the lost.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for you. When someone I loved very much died, I don't know what happened but I turned off after I felt like I couldn't take it. I couldn't cry for 3 years after that. I never grieved even to this day and it's been 11 years. I can't explain it. My heart goes out to you sweetheart.

Answer 7

lost? what do u mean? if you lost people because they appeared distant and not in contact with you then try to reach them..the best cure of missing people is by bringing them back into your life, if its possible of course. but if not, try to meet other people or engage into something you really like and something that you could benefit most from..or maybe something that shows the better side of you so you can draw new people close to you and you keep them as friends whom you can talk to when you're lonely and feeling bitter about life.

Answer 8

You never get "over" it. It just becomes less painful. You will always miss your loved ones. But one day, you will remember them with a smile and it won't hurt so much. Nothing can make that go faster. It just takes time.

Answer 9

Living in the good times we had. They may be gone, but the memories can never die if you don't let them.

Answer 10

Thats a tough one