why are some gay men rude to str8 women?

Question

i was in the alltell office and was paying my bill, and the salesperson was very rude to me, and this is the third time he was rude to me. I can't go to the manager, cause there was only two ppl working there, and he was one of them, and yes, he is gay. I have no plroblem with gays, ( dad was one) but his behavior was deplorable, and all I did was go in and pay my bill with my usual money order. I do this every month, and for the last three times, he has been rude. He knows I am str8. How do i tactfully handle this ??

I came to find out , he didn't like me because I was on public assistance. And didn't use a bank account to pay my bill.

Answer 1

I don't think it's an issue of gay men being rude to straight women...I think it's an issue of this guy is just a jerk lol

There really isn't a way to deal with it unless you go to someone in a higher position and say that he's being rude to you. Either that or develop an attitude espcially for him? hehe

Answer 2

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Answer 3

My suggestion would be to be direct.
When there are not a lot of people around, simply ask him, gently but directly ... something like ... "Have I done something to offend you?" (this way he isn't put on the defensive) ... or ... "Is there something wrong with the manner in which I'm paying my bill?" (again, this doesn't put him on the defensive).
If you know for sure that he is gay (HOW are you sure, incidentally?? Is he 'out'??), you could even jokingly ask "Do you dislike all straight women or am i special?"
Either way, it let's him know in a non-attacking way that you recognize his attitude and don't appreciate it, and also gives him the chance to explain - or maybe he doesn't even realize he's doing it.
No matter what, he'll be aware of his behavior and know that YOU are aware, too.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

that's why I dislike gay males they are the first to say to a woman they are ugly or their dress looks terrible. they are the first to go up to a transsexual and say you look male and use male pronouns. gay men are just rude people naturally. I find them distasteful and bitter. just very rude and straight forward. if a person with a deformity walked by them the gay man and his friends would all laugh and call him or her ugly.gaya males only like good looking people. I saw a straight woman walking down a sidewalk and a transsexual was walking in front of her and the gay male told the transsexual woman rudely to move and let the real woman pass. only a ****** queer male would say that. not even straight males would say that. that's why I encourage gay bashing only on males not females. the lesbians are cool but the gay males will insult your appearance until you cry.

Answer 5

I dont know but I know that a lot of lesbians are very rude to men- some have the anti men thing going while others have this false belief that all men want them or something- to each their own. I see no reason to act like an a$$hole to anyone

Answer 6

you could ask him in the nicest possible manner if he was raised by wolves.(joke) I don't think sexuality is the question here, this man is in a customer service oriented job and ha has no business being rude to customers for no reason. Ask yourself if you would tolerate this from a straight person, if the answer is no then you're not doing him or yourself any favors by keeping quiet. He needs to realize that customer service means serve ALL customers in a friendly manner regardless

Answer 7

Are you sure he is being rude to you because you are straight, and not just rude because he's a rude jerk? That sounds more likely to me.

I would confront it face on and ask "Why are you being rude to me, I have nothing against you?" I've done that to straight people who were rude to me. Be warned, with some, it makes it worse, but generally if I'm polite they actually think about it. Now I admit, a couple of them told me because their churches said that I should be killed, and they agreed (no I'm not joking) -- but most became more respectful.

Good luck.

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Reyn
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Answer 8

Are you sure he was rude just because you are straight? Maybe he is rude to everyone...not just straight women...

I think your generalizing the fact that you cannot go to the manager because he is gay is rude. I mean, don't you think that assuming the manager will take the salesperson's side just because they are both gay is rude? If it bothers you so much...switch carriers, or better yet...just pay online...

Answer 9

Sometimes I'm rude and I don't mean to be. Maybe he just has a shitty life. Or if you want, call him out and calmly say "Are you being rude to me on purpose or is that just your nature?" No need to get nasty, he might "loose" the check.

Answer 10

maybe change your hairdo? Being rude in not a specific homosexual trait, just a human one. This particular man happens to meet both requirements although you mentioned that YOU know he is gay, and how is that so?. Why would he know you are straight?
You are perfectly within your rights to complain if you considered to have been mistreated. Smile and be happy!