I'm in love with my best friend, but shes straight. I'm mostly straight and shes the only one who even knows i've been questioning. when we went on vacation this summer we cuddled every night. we would whisper i love you and kiss (like on the cheek, never lips) i've never told her how i feel because I'm afraid she'll act differently around me. I couldn't' handle not being around her, shes my best friend and i wouldn't' be able to survive without her. i know she has been questioning before, but decided she was straight. right now as far a love goes shes sick of liking people who don't like her back. idk if i should go for her or not. please HELP!
2007-10-10 15:13:28 · 5 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ask yourself this question...
Would you rather have her as a friend or a lover?
Best friends are VERY hard to come by, and if you really and truly value the friendship...you wouldn't have to ask this question.
However, if your friendship is as strong as you imply...then if you confessed your feelings to her, and she does NOT feel the same way, then your friendship should be strong enough to handle it...
Have faith in yourself, and everything else will come together...
2007-10-10 15:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by lawrencekid1974 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the EXACT same predicament. In fact, with my best friend, how it turned out was that I asked her out while she was questioning her sexuality, and it was the prospect of being in a relationship with another girl that made her realise she was, in fact, straight.
You can't force her to like you or to change her sexuality. If it would make you feel better, talk to her about it, but don't plan on going any farther than friends with her (and make sure she knows that). In the meantime, hard as it is, try to find someone else you may be interested in. Pining over this girl and allowing yourself to dwell in it will make you like her more AND will make it harder.
Good luck!
2007-10-10 15:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by SheIsDeath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she might have feelings back for you then talk to her about it. Ease her into the topic...however if she has definately decided that she is straight then dont go there. Its much better to have a long term friend then a short term confused lover. If you value your friendship and are sure that she is straight then just stick with that!
hope this helped!
2007-10-10 15:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok, as a str8 woman, let me tell u thus: Best friends are hard to come by. Lovers are a dime a dozen be it str8, gay, bi, what ever. My best friend, lives in Utah, i live in Va. Havent seen her in over ten years, and she is bi, and was attracted to me. ( That was hard for me, because I felt i lost a friend) and so I hope I helped u.
2007-10-10 15:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too,but I know it will always be sexless love unfortunately.I will always love them but know they will always love the opposite sex,not me the same way i love them,but thats the way it is.if some one comes around to love sexualy i know it is the way to go,for otherwise ill live along
2007-10-10 15:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋