I like the gal who was my best friend for 3 yrs.she asked me the question " if sumthin was there between us more than friendship?"..when i proposed to her she refused my love.After a couple of weeks she responded tat she loves me too and wat she refused back then was tryin to hide her love...i trusted her as i have nevr trusted anyone before...later after couple of months she again made a U turn explaining she is not able to reciprocate love and she is unable to accept my love...i am shatttered...how can ppl play wid feelings when they r not sur if they love or not....it has killed our friendship as well....All along i was loving her...now i hate her & her friendship....
Why does this happen...
2007-10-10 15:06:56 · 13 answers · asked by murali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you guys for ur response.The reason for being upset is not cause she declined my love...she never considered me or discuss anything with me before making a call yes or no...It hurts when its ur best friend who has behaved like this and i know for a fact that there was no compulsion on her to say a yes or fluctuate in her decision...the first time she decline i accepted her decision with a satisfaction that i expressed my desire to her inspite of her negative response...and she gave me mile long email justifying her reasons to love me..lol...and bang in 2 months All fall down!!!!....but it hurts when its ur friend who does it....anyways thanks so much for all ur responses.......
2007-10-10 15:25:43 · update #1
I'm sorry but it most certainly sounds like she played you. I know it hurts too.
Why people do this in my book is because they are selfish. They have their own issues and make them ours.
I know you are hurt and angry, but don't hate her. Focus on you, take all the hurt you feel inside, think your relationship over, so when you do meet someone again, you may recognize some of those "particular signs".
Be good to you and remember what goes around, comes around, she will be done the same way by someone else during her lifetime.
I would not give her anymore of your time if she comes around to you or you know, she will just be setting you up to take another fall.
Be safe ~
2007-10-10 15:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me before, here's my story and I'll explain why it happens after it.
I've been going to the mall and stuff with this girl I really liked for about 2 years now but I never told her i had a crush until just yesterday I told her.She said she doesn't really like me.
After that i was heartbroken but the next day she said she actually is IN LOVE with me. Then for some reason afterschool she broke my heart again.
This happens to a lot of people that are secretly in love because either A)The girl hasn't really made her mind on the 1st or 2nd time and she makes up her mind on the 3rd time or B) She was just lying to you
2007-10-10 15:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by secretkid927 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a very complex matter; it can bring people up to their greatest joys or throw people down viciously. that is why we need to handle it carefully. perhaps she responded too quickly and didn't carefully think it over. the regret later sank in and she decided her previous choice was wrong. i think that is why situations like this happen. just know that these things happen to other people too, you are not alone.
right now, you have two options, be friends with her again (i doubt you'll choose this one), or channel your hatred into your motivation. if she thinks being with you was a bad decision, you need to show her that you can stand back up and live a happy life with or without her. i know this will take time, getting over someone isn't easy. try to release your sorrow/hatred in the most calm and effective way.
hope that helps and good luck! remember, you are not alone. =)
2007-10-10 15:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kaylin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong, thats all a man can ever do. Try and reconcille your friendship with her, because honestly, it never hurts to have a friend opposed to hating her. Haha, women are too troublesome for the good guys >_<
2007-10-10 15:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I know how you feel.
Why does this happen? I think because people in general (men do this too!) don't know their own minds and don't think of consequences of their actions. They don't take relationships seriously. Or they are so self-centered that they cannot feel for another person. Like, it is all a game to them. Don't worry, there is someone for everyone, she is just not the one. Hang in there! Good luck. ♥
2007-10-10 15:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Rhiannon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont hate her.instead of proposing u couid have just ask her out. but when she said no to your proposal you shouid have left it alone.at least she explained to you she has a hard time showing her love. maybe she wasnt ready and you moved too fast. yoyu can still be good friends just forgive her.eventually you'll fall in love again. trust me,and next time the female will return your love if shes the right one.
2007-10-10 15:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by thehottestbradpitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she says i cant accept ur luve, its prbably when she had a boyfriend, or feels she has a chance with another boy. When she says she loves you, she is free. OR she might be testing you, to see if you really lyk you, OR, she might just ebe a cruel person who loves to toy with ppl's emotions.
2007-10-10 15:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens because it's life. You'll recover and be all the better for the experience.
2007-10-10 15:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts and it sucks, and to be honest she doesnt deserve you, but hating her will not do you good either, please forgive her, wish her the best and move on. Find yourself someone who will respect you and love you for the way you are.
2007-10-10 15:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by sweet&crazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up and try to find another woman
2007-10-10 15:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋