I am a little confused is this normal? Will this affect my daughter in anyway? or i am too worried?
2007-10-10 13:50:59 · 16 answers · asked by Shayla D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
One thing certainly isn't normal:
He's sleeping with and being sexually active with a woman he's not married to - it's wrong and it's going to set a bad example for your daughter.
As a mother, I would NOT let my daughter sleep over there at all as long as he is living in adultery.
As far as young children sleeping with their parents - it's ok on occasion but should not be a regular practice. Couples should have private time in their own bed away from the children.
2007-10-10 13:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 4⤊ 5⤋
You have a right to be concerned. This is not appropriate for your daughter to sleep in the same bed with her dad and his girlfriend. I would have a talk with him and tell him that if your daughter is going to spend the night he has to make sure there is suitable sleeping arrangments (her own room/bed). If she gets scared or something then he needs to bring her back to her room where he should stay until she goes back to sleep.
2007-10-10 14:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is fine..do not be territorial. they are creating a family setting so that Ur daughter does not feel left out w/ the girlfriend there. she just wants 2b w/ her daddy, it will stop when she feels more confident that she is not replacing any1 & only adding 2 her family. if U r stressed out about it, let him know that when she crashes out it would be ok 2 put her in2 her own bed, so that they can have time 2gether when she is there not just when she is gone. this will make it easier 4 Ur daughter 2 adjust as well. good luck, I am a step mom & mom that shares.
2007-10-10 14:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its bad on occasion. If its all the time it makes you wonder when they are having there "alone"time. When our nephew stays at our house he usually sleeps with my husband and i (he's four) We have a bed but he likes to sleep with us. I think it would be more worrisome if the child was female and the unrelated individual was male. i'd question the motive. It really depends what is going on in the bed. They should not be intimate if the child is in the room even if the child is asleep. Also, you wont get anywhere in court with this issue unless it is sexually driven. just sleeping is not an offense.
2007-10-10 14:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by reneaumommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its normal for a child in a different unfamiliar home, where the only normal thing is dad, to creep into the bed room and try to sleep the rest of the night in the same bed.
I would find it strange if he bedded her down there from bed time until morning, and it was a normal thing. Thats a little odd.
Especially with the girlfriend there.
2007-10-10 13:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would ask him why are the three of them sharing a bed..dose she not have her own room or at least a couch to sleep on?? As far as affecting her as long as everyone has their clothes on she would be fine emotionally. And you are never too worried...you are a MOM!!
2007-10-10 14:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does your wee girl say about it? speak to your ex about this, and if he doesn't think it's strange(i think it's weird) then turn the tables on him... ask how he'd feel if you and your boyfriend did the same. if space is an issue buy her her own blow-up bag and maybe one of those child sleeping-bags, tell her she's getting bigger now and that it's more fun having her own bed. if you're instincts are telling you this isn't normal then act on them. i wouldn't be happy if it was me. good luck x
2007-10-10 18:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your ex wants the gf and your daughter to bond. One thing's for sure it's not right because she's only the gf and not the wife. No offence but you should not be teaching your child about adultry at such young age.... Apologies if any find my comment offensive.
2007-10-10 14:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would put a quick stop to that. It is not at all appropriate. Tell him she is to sleep in her own bed or else you'll see him in court and refuse visitation. That is not normal, she should be in her own bed!!
2007-10-10 13:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I heard this from one of my friend and she said that it's against law. His girlfriend can't even stay overnight in his house if his child is at home.
Or at least that's the law in Texas and I am pretty sure that's true because it was happening to her.
2007-10-10 16:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by cutegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋