Ok, im pretty damn sure im bi, i am attracted to both and i love my boyfriend. Honestly i dont think id ever date a girl, i mean i really love my bf and girls seem to love drama. But, im more attracted to girls, they turn me on more. My boyfriend loves the idea of me and another chick together just how do i tell him that im bi? I mean i dont think he will mind one bit well i know he will like it, its just i dont know how to tell him. It just seems really hard to get it into words.
2007-10-10 13:31:39 · 27 answers · asked by Katherine S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hmm..
just be like babe..
im bi..
if you say he'll understand he will..
2007-10-10 13:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey now, you're walking on very treacherous ground, here. I'm not judging you but I'd like to share with you what happened when my ex-wife decided that she liked women too.
I didn't have a problem with it either. In fact I thought it was a total turn-on. The problems did not begin until she actually found a female lover. Her female lover could not share my ex-wife with me. She wanted to turn her away from me and convert her into a total lesbian. Her jealousy was so intense that she destroyed the fragile remains of my relationship with my ex-wife for a while. My ex-wife and I have since mended the fences and become friends again after years of separation, but we can never be a couple again, even though we still love each other.
If you can find a female lover who will share you with your boyfriend you might be all right. Let me ask you a question, how would you feel if your new female lover put the moves on your man? That's the kind of thing that happens, either she wants him or he wants her. What would you think if you found out he liked men? Wouldn't you be insane with jealousy?
Do what you want, but your relationship is heading for disaster.
Good luck
2007-10-10 13:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it's just a feeling, and you haven't actually acted upon those feelings, yet.... then it's really a non-issue. If you've already cheated on him, it doesn't really matter if it was with a guy or a girl, you still cheated. I think if you tell him, he would probably be cool with it.... I've never known a straight man that didn't want to get it on with 2 girls at the same time. So who knows, it may even strengthen your relationship. Good Luck!
2016-04-08 01:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A situation like this can always get sticky if not handled with tactic and care. If he has voiced before that he finds attractive the notion of you with other females, then perhaps it may be easier to say it to him. I suggest inquiring about his thoughts on it once more before telling him and when you do say it, do it with care and just don't drop the bomb "I'm bisexual" on him.
2007-10-10 13:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should find out if your really bi. you may be attracted to a girl physically but emotionally you arent because you coulndt date them. if your bisexual you would date either or. you might just be really horny. im sure your boyfriend would love to have a 3 way and if all you want is sex from a girl then im sure you would too.
just tell him that your attracted to girls but you love him and woulndt leave him for one. my girlfriend said that to me and it helped calm my nerves.
2007-10-10 13:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by night wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I reckon you keep your trap shut.
I'm bi and my partner knows, but sometimes I wish that he didn't. And if you love the guy, steer clear of adding other people into the mix, it's a recipe for disaster.
2007-10-10 13:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, when i told my boyfriend i started out saying "they're cute" about some girls on tv, or on the street or whatever.
then after i was used to that i was like "they're really hot." about girls on tv and such, and then i casually mentioned that i was attracted to both girls and boys in an im conversation.
It took him a little while to get used to it, but in the end he liked it :] hope i help!
2007-10-10 13:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Ashlee's Heavy Heart ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he finds the idea of you and another gorl together hot, you've got no problem. Just tell him. He'll probably love it.
2007-10-11 02:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by luvbev2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell him! Just cause your bi doesn't mean your gonna cheat on him any more or less, it shouldn't make a differnace to him or you!
2007-10-10 13:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another girl into bed then invite him over without telling him and then have him join in. He'll get the idea.
2007-10-10 13:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Nate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well how old are you if your adults tell but if your in school dont tell that will just be a bunch of rumors but ibelieve if you love someone you love them i think that gender is no big deal
2007-10-10 13:35:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋