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2007-10-10 13:18:25 · 32 answers · asked by prettyvegascutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Friends of the opposite sex are just fine. Relationships are built on trust and that can take trust about as far as you can take it.
There's always a line not to cross with those friends such as spending more time with them than your spouse, talking about them often around your spouse and friends, talking on the phone too often, instant messaging, excessive text messaging which can then make a spouse curious as to why you don't the same with them.
2007-10-10 13:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is very possible to have friends of the opposite sex when you are married. If the relationship that you have with your spouse is secure and the friendship that you have with the other person is just that (a friendship), it will work. The best way to handle a relationship like this is to put the whole friendship out on the table in the beginning. Make sure that your spouse is clear about any and everything that happens between you and your friend. In other words, let that friendship be as transparent as possible. Involve your spouse in every aspect of that relationship. As far as your marriage goes, keep it personal. Keep the things that are specific to your marriage, within the confines of your marriage. Any problems, personal things and concerns should be discussed within the marriage and not with the friend that is of the opposite sex.
It sounds complicated, and it's a lot of work, but it can be done.
2007-10-10 13:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by deeselvey07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible, risky, but possible. The key is not to get too close with anyone of the opposite sex when you're married. Preferably, married people should stick with other married couples, family, or just to each other's own gender. It's safe that why. However, if you have a really close friend that you know for a FACT you would never go beyond the basis of a friendship, then I would consider that acceptable.
2007-10-10 13:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do discover that typically those associates attempt to tempt you into doing issues and also you've were given to be reliable sufficient to decline. From my journey they favor more desirable a large number of the time yet in the journey that they have someone too and also you meet them purely with their gf or major different then it may paintings. Or in the journey that they are on-line and also you purely save them on-line it truly is possible. purely receives now complicated at the same time as they commence speaking about belongings you understand you are able to't truly do because you're married.
2016-10-09 00:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by smyers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's all about trust. If your spouse can't trust you with the opposite sex, even as friends, there's a serious underlying problem.
It takes two to tango: even if people say "NO guy would ever be JUST a friend to a girl" (which I disagree on, but I'm not a guy so I don't know for sure) if the girl doesn't give in, nothing is going to happen and her spouse should trust her judgement.
2007-10-10 13:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lena S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the nonconformist that I am, I gonna break this chain of "yes-man" and simply say NO. When cultivating a friendship with anyone of the opposite gender, sexual thoughts will eventually enter the equation. At least it is that way for men. Best to eliminate the temptation and not develop any close relationships with those of the opposite sex.
2007-10-10 13:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they know where to draw the line in there friendly relationship, never count out the partners include them when doing something. that is where relationships feel threatened. Some ppl make the mistake in thinking that they can go on weekend get aways with their opposite sex buddy which is a major( NO NO) and for one to let this happen in there relationship is asking for trouble. I hope this helps.
2007-10-10 13:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by angel_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social interaction is crucial to the emotional balance of every human being. Married or unmarried, we are all products of a social world. It is very important for married people to retain good respectable friends because they are the shoulders they will lean on for advice or to vent out steam and most importantly for help.
Upon marriage, I had to accept that some of my husbands closest friends were women, I could not do much because that is his social orientation and I have accepted it that way. I do to have 1 or 2 male friends. I am not in daily touch with them but when we connect, we have so much to share and from them I am able to assess if I am being a good wife from the stories they tell me about their marital situaltions. I would go to lengths to sort my male friends out in times of trouble because I love them and appreciate that they love me enough to have friendship without demanding for sex.
2007-10-10 13:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by lavagal.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm fine with my husband being freindly to his staff and all that even throwing a staff only christmas party (I have plans with my parents anyway). And a majority of them are women.
What I would have a problem with is them calling, emailing and texting him all the time. Him leaving me home pregnant all hours of the night to go hang out with them stuff like that but then again I wuold be the same way if it were guys.
2007-10-10 13:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is quite possible, unless the girl is really hot, jk.
Seriously yes married or not people can be friends with the opposite sex,as long as they don't forget that is what it is.
2007-10-10 13:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Just G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋