They hate me because their daughter and I may get divorced. I don't like them either but they are going to be in my life if I decide to reconcile my wife. Am I married to them too?
2007-10-10 13:08:25 · 7 answers · asked by airmandan10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your best bet is to first decide if you are going to reconcile, then if you decide to try, go over to their house and talk to them and apologize for having dragged them into your business and hurting their daughter and them. Tell them that it is your intentions to work things out and repair the marriage, and you would appreciate them at the very least staying out of your relationship business....and tell your wife to STOP RUNNING TO MOM AND DAD with all her personal problems.
2007-10-10 14:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not married to them and if you are reconciling with your wife good on you for doing it. Your wife needs to be understanding if you don't want to get together with her parents for a while until you have firmly established your relationship again.
Above all else the relationship with your wife is number one and the in laws are merely that -IN LAWS!! I am preaching to myself here because I have a similar feeling with my in laws (they have just left after staying for 10 agonizing days!!) and now I have all these thoughts going through my head how they are talking about me with the rest of the Italian in law family etc... well I have to tell myself constantly does it really matter what they think??
At the end of the day they are not in your house with you 24/7 so just enjoy the days you have with your wife and thank God the In laws are not there as well!!
2007-10-10 13:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by kazbian 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that the in laws play an important role in a relationship .You are not married to them but everything you do to your wife,for your wife and apart from your wife,they will be the first ones to know......
If you and your wife are going threw with this then you have nothing to worry about.If you and your wife decide to stay together,its best to invite them over and have a grown up talk about the concerns you have.Talk to them,whats the worst thing that can happen that already hasn't.It is sure worth a try to conversate with them after all they are the ones who are there for your wife.....
2007-10-10 13:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by hiddensecretangel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't agree with you. When you married her, you gave your vows to her not to the whole family. And if you guys do reconcile, you both need to spend quality, not quantity time with each other alone.
I hope everything works out between you and your wife. Good luck to you!
2007-10-10 13:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Chulis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not married to them but you will have to put up with them.
Besides, we really do reap what we sow. So if you deserve there contempt, suck it up and be a man.
Just be nice to them no matter what... I said, no matter what!
Be the better person.
Good luck.
2007-10-10 13:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you are! Didnt anyone tell you that before you got married?
2007-10-10 13:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are married to them. thats kinda absurd.
but you will most likely hear about them very often.
just as long as you dont see or deal with them then there shouldnt be a problem.
2007-10-10 13:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by kk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋