Help!!! My husband is making me crazy!!! What should I say?

Question

This is just to weird. So this is the situation, my husband works in an office with a lot of females, I don't worry about him cheating or anything we have a really good relashionship. We talk about things all the time and many people have commented on how we hardly ever fight. The only problem is that in the last few months I guess some of his co-workers have told him that he is a really good man (which he is) they tell him to tell me how lucky I am, so he comes home and tells me. I just look at him and say I know I am lucky. It was okay I guess the first few times but know he will call me at work out of the blue to metion that what someone has said. The problem is I know I am lucky, but he is lucky too and he never mentions that. It just feels like he is rubbing it in my face and I don't know what he wants me to say to that. Maybe I am over reacting because these women don't see him at home. Do I feel this way because I think he is treating his co-workers better than me? :(

Answer 1

I don't think he's treating them better. I think he is not use to outside attention, which that means he is insecure. If you know that you are pretty, why would a compliment about you being pretty blow your mind? When he tells you this again, ask him, have you told them how lucky you are to have me? Tell him,'' by now ''honey, you should be use to the compliments, I sure hate for these women words to cause a problem in our home. We both know that we are lucky, so why are their compliment getting to you as if you are shocked that you are being told the very thing that I show you daily?

Answer 2

i do not see that it would be appropriate for men and women in the workplace to discuss if he is a good man or not.

is this a small office ?

how do you know for sure what the coworkers are really saying to him?

do understand that many women do hit on men .. this is a subtle form of flirtation . the women are not looking for a husband or evaluating what he's like to live with him .

he will have to handle this professionally ... likely not going to change job to job ?

there is also a point where you must trust each other

honestly , you should be talking to your husband about what drives you crazy .... you must be able to speak and communicate with each other.

you can't get too possessive / and understand that it is also valid that he can be insecure MIGHT possibly be inventing or inflating some of this for your attention

I would also recognize the flirtation is going to occur and many women view a married man as in the game these days . if you found him good enough to marry / chances are another woman will also find this to be the case. he must have a couple things attractive

the wedding ring is only significant as Jack Nicolson once said in a movie as sign that he is sexually functioning and he has a view dollars in his pocket. both criteria that interest women ? LOL

Answer 3

He sounds like he is neglecting your needs. But speaking as a thick headed selfish male ... we are not mind-readers even if we care. Remind him that he is a lucky man to have you. Say it outright and this probably isn't the only thing bugging you. Tell him whatelse is bugging you. Express your needs and wants regularly and shower him with the love and kisses and treat him good. Also inform him that if he doesn't treat you good that he should. Many people get lazy in relationships and I know as a guy if I don't get a tougue lashing and a reminder ounce and a while I get lazy. Be angry when you say things ... it has a larger impact on men. We understand Anger :).

Answer 4

Ask yourself the very last sentence you asked us..
Maybe you feel like he is being paid too many compliments by these other ladies..?? Why do they need to tell him how wonderful he is all the time? I would watch that carefully..
Or maybe you feel like he is unappreciative of all the things that you do for him on a consistant basis. Either way.. I would definately let him know that it bothers you.. See if it would bother him if the situation were reversed.
see if you can come up with a way to make you feel better about the situation.

Answer 5

tell him how lucky he is lol for you putting up with him ! tell him how lucky his co workers are , that you aint gone and kicked there butts yet! why would people keep telling him to tell you how lucky you are, it sounds like someones trying to make moves on your man, tell your hubby if he so much as mentions this again hes gonna find out how lucky he is! people should mind there own business in others relationships . maybe you should send them all thank you notes , that might get the point across to everyone.

Answer 6

That would suck, I think maybe he's insecure or something to be so occupied with the praise of his co-workers. It sort of seems like he's fishing for compliments from ya. Maybe try to beat him to the punch and say something good to him, something that you know about him that his co-workers don't. If that don't work and your relationship is as good as you say it is then just tell him "Hey I know better than they do how lucky WE are to have eachother."

Answer 7

You have to be honest. Don't wonder about a thing. You have to say exactly how this is looking to you and how it's making you feel. Tell him that he looks like a jerk if he thinks he has to harass you about how lucky are. Tell him you don't think you're lucky right now, because of this nonsense and how he's handling it.

When people tell you to compliment them, it's usually because their insecure. I have no idea why he thinks he has to smother that in your face. Just threaten that if he keeps it up, he will be very unlucky. Good Luck

Answer 8

He's not, nor is he cheating. Men need their egos stroked as much and sometimes more than women and this is a classic case. When they are not receiving enough validation (even though you may think he is) he will try to elicit this directly from you. Nothing means more to a man than for the woman he loves to stroke his ego with flattery and compliments. What he is saying to you but will never actually verbalize is this: "I am a man, your man... and I have just as fragile an ego as you have. I know you love me but I need validation and compliments. Please don't ever tease me about the most sensitive issues to me which are my gut, hairline and my 'size.' Please do compliment me and praise me like hell when I do even the things I'm supposed to do like take out the trash. Because I really need this. I'm trying to tell you how great I am in an effort to get you to please do this." So, just do it. Compliment him like mad.

Answer 9

He's a man honey they just cannot take a compliment for what it is a compliment! They almost always go over board. you need to tell him to put Them in her place and maybe tell Them how lucky he is.

Answer 10

Instead of telling him not to do it....try diverting his mind on other things...like what you will do to him when he comes home....and where you will take him for dinner one night of the month...and so on...
Sometimes women at work will flirt with men, so tell him to watch out for this....if it happens, he should tell you right away..but compliments should be relaxed alittle so you don't go crazy....