What is the secret?

Question

I am in my thirties. I have had only one "O" from intercourse in my life. I know, sad. I really want to figure this out as it is depressing. It makes me feel horrible that my boyfriend can't get me to, trust me, it's not him. And I know it makes him feel horrible. It's me, I just don't know why. I am so jealous of my friends that don't seem to have this problem. Serious, mature answers only, please. thanks

Answer 1

This is a learned skill and its all about position. First, find the ways you "can" O and start from there. I have about 6 types. Three major types and then combinations of those three together. This is more about you knowing your own body than anything. I promise your BF wont mind the practice. Try many, many, different positions. It's a FUN search! Don't be depressed about it at all. You are totally normal. Don't forget to let your mind go. Our brain is our biggest sexual organ and I think women tend to forget this. Let yourself fantasize. Find ways to get lost in the moment. Many times relaxing is half of it. Get out the candles, take a bubble bath, masturbate on your own, put some music on. Most of all, have a good time! Hope this helps, good luck :)

Answer 2

Do you masturbate regularly? If you don't know how to get yourself to orgasim then you won't be able to tell him if this or that works. You need to try many positions ... work on stimulating the clit and the G-spot, oral, possibly rectal but I haven't heard too many woman who actually enjoy the third entry. Try vibrators - role playing ( a womans mind is a huge part of her getting the big O) over thinking can be a problem too so sometimes just try not to think at all and enjoy. Have him practice forplay if that may be your extra need. Set the mood right with music, candles or do it in exotic places like someplace sorta hidden but in public. The super exciting stimulus could come from anywhere and anything and is different for a lot of people. You can try to get on top and work it out yourself :-p. Study your body then figure out what works for you. Good luck and there is hope for you( you did have 1 you'll have more.

Answer 3

most of the time intercourse will NOT do it...a woman will NOT be able to do much more than a man that way..that said..i think you are NOT relaxed sufficiently...

a woman who wants kids and does not have them can spend MONTHS without relaxing because she wants them and does not have them..so they'll go months on end without being able to get where they want that way...i think you are in the same rut...once you have another O from intercourse you may relax a little then..because it has happened...

relax NOW..and just be happy when and if they come (pun intended)

the clitoris is the pleasure center of the female body...the more time is spent upon it..the more pleased you will feel.

Answer 4

From what I heard it is very hard for a woman to get an "O" from intercourse! If you worry about it too much you will never get one. Just let it flow! Don't let that be your major concern when your having intercourse or it will never happen again.

Answer 5

let me be frank with you, ALOT of women don't O on intercourse alone!
if you can Orgasm any other time then thats a great thing, but to expect to 'come' a certain way just with intercourse alone , takes a certain position and sometimes Orgasm just doesnt happen there. The "C" will get you there!

Answer 6

well..they have alot of gizmos & gadgets now a days that are very helpful...some women dont reach orgasms just by penetration but by a combination of things...trick is finding ur personal combination...i say start with the basics..chck urself with a dr (just to make sure)..then start @ the adult stores & find a small descrete item that u think u might enjoy..there will be alot of trial & error...make sure u dont limit urself to a certain part of ur body (i.e. genitals)..think outside the box & take advantage of ur entire being..rent some super light porn..set the mood..talk 2 ur partner & dont be afraid to try something new...good luck...

Answer 7

First of all, see your gynocologist to make sure nothing's wrong. I've been married 3 times and it wasn't until I met my current husband that I had one, at the age of 36, no less! It took a knowledgable lover and (Oh God this is embarassing) a "curved one" to make me lose my mind. Good luck.

Answer 8

All he has to do is use his fingers when he is on top of you,tell him to get his fingers going in a circular motion on your clit and before you know it,you will be saying OH MY GOD !!!!

Answer 9

ok you need to try a lady sometimes lady's can help in this matter i have not been with lady but i heard it can be a great way to find out what your missing maybe a lady can be better check it out ok