what is your opinion on people being married 3 times or more?

Question

is it ok to date a man who has been married 4 times and plans to marry again?

to add. he has admitted that he does not tend to stick around when he no longer thinks the relationship is working. He is the one that has left them.

Answer 1

well it really depends why it didn't work out. But 4 times? It must be the guy's problem and not his partner, so no, don't date him.

Answer 2

classy1, i have been married 3 times and am looking 2 marry again.
what a person must look at is why the party is divorced that many times. was it their fault or the others part.
many ppl marry 4 all the wrong reasons, and when they figure that out they up and divorce their spouse despite the possibility that nothing was really wrong in the marriage...now should one party b "tagged" as "bad marriage material" just because the other party had their preverbial head up their butt? no.
no one makes the best choices possible and marriage today is at best a card game with some of the cards turned face up ( the answers they are willing 2 give) and some cards are turned face down ( the answers some are not willing 2 ask questions 2 find out).
communication is the key, ask the guy/gal why they have been married so many times, they, like I, should have nothing 2 hide.
but they also deserve another chance.

Answer 3

Sure. In certain cases. I for example, have been married 3 times. (I'm a woman.) I married the first time because I was a single mother and he was an older professional who offered me love, companionship and financial support. The second and third times were for pure love and absolutely no thought was put into it on my part. It never occurred to me that either of these men would or could be unfaithful (#2) or verbally abusive to my child and me (#3). Granted, I didn't make very good decisions but I think that if my circumstances would have been different, my choices would have been different. Make certain that you really know this man, should you entertain the idea of marriage to him. This man may marry on a whim. He may divorce for his own selfish reasons. There are also men who's entire basis of conquest is to see if they can wed. Take it slow. Good luck!

Answer 4

That depends on you. Would you like to be married? Would you like to be married to this man? Sure, it is ok to date him. Have fun. Learn about each other. In time, you will know why he was married 4 times before and why the marriages didn't last You will also find out if you can deal with issues related to ex's.

If your goal is to get married to some man right now, be cautious. It may not last with him. If you are just dating, I say try him out. Have fun with him.

Answer 5

When I just read your first part of the question about what do we think of people being married 3 times. I would have said fine hopeless romantics trying to get it right. and so many bad fish out there . least were trying to get it right. Not that we want a divorce most of us would want to find the right person and to grow old with.

but then you said this guy is telling you he will leave if he finds its not working well at least he's honest. but this also is a red flag another words will he run at the first sign of problems and not work things out and throw in the towel. or if another girl in a pretty skirt comes along better than you.

least you know where you stand with this guy before jumping in to marraige for him and you I would say your better suited with just living with him. If your not interested in having children and you know his track record is free bird and loving all who comes his way. I wouldn't settle down with him so soon. Just live together so if you go your seperate ways you've saved divorce fees etc...

But generally speaking most people prefer to find the right one not one for every other year.

Answer 6

Serial marriages are the result of not doing the work necessary after a divorce, in order to get healthy and stable again. The "marriers" often rush into another union hoping to ignore problems and issues left unsetlled and then subject the new marriage to the same ol' same ol'. You take your baggage with you to the next relationship IF you don't work the problems you initially had.

Date him all you want...marry him?? NO WAY!!!

Answer 7

I have been married 3 times. I have resolved the issues that led to 3 divorces.

My current girlfriend is ok with this. She knows that I am a wonderful guy and that I have worked out my issues. I don't think that 3 divorces or more necessarily means that the person isn't ok. As long as they have worked out the issues, it is ok.

Answer 8

Odds are, if you marry him, you will be ex wife #5, but then again, who knows. Each of my parents were married 3 times. For them 3 was the magic #, because neither of them has ever divorced their 3rd spouse. My dad would have been married to his 3rd wife 23 years this year. He passed away 6 years ago, my mom has been married 21 years to her 3rd husband. Sometimes, it just takes a lot of practice before they get it right......

Answer 9

It is perfectly acceptable to date someone who has been married that many times. However, tread lightly on the whole marriage thing. Divorces happen all the time... once is unfortunate, twice is questionable, three times...a habit. Perhaps he doesn't know himself enough to be intimate with another. Whatever the reason... odds are not in your favor. I would just be careful in this situation, assuming it is about you of course!

Answer 10

Well, I've been married 3x, in love with only one of my husbands, in love with others who weren't husbands. My multiple marriages is easily explainable, my picker is broken. I thought I had it fixed when I married a good man this last time around, but I wasn't in love, and ultimately I wanted love. Apparently my picker is still broken, cause the one I love isn't here. Sigh, in love with love but not with my husbands.. Yes, looking at myself, I can see reason for caution. I wanna get it right once and for all. Maybe your guy does too, ask more questions, get to know his reasons.

Answer 11

I think people who get married twice could very well have just made a mistake with who they married. Past twice I can't help but to wonder if the issue lies more with them or the partners they tend to choose and it would be a red flag for me.