Husband of 2 years won't touch me-- what would you do?

Question

married for 2 years. Hubby is pretty reserved and shy. I have to initiate everything and I am tired. He won't even touch me unless I do. My ex husband couldn't get his hands off me and my hubby of 2 years won't even touch me. What would you do in my situation???

PS: I am attractive, 5"7, 130 pounds so before you say loose weight, etc..... looks is not the issue here.

Answer 1

Did you try to talk to him about it? Maybe he is intimidated by you or your sexual past, there could be so many reasons for this.

Answer 2

Got a couch? help him make it up and then kiss him good night and say sleep tight.

I can not understand men who just get lazy physically and expect the woman to innitiate all the time , it drove me insane when my husband started doing this , complaining he wasnt a mind reader (if your wife is in bed naked and cuddling into you rubbing your stomach and lower abs how dumb @zzed could you be?) , explain to your significant other that marriage is made up of a variety of wants and needs and this is 1 need he needs to stand up to and perform or just dont bother being in your bed anymore plain and simple.

BUT be warned , if he is ok with sleeping on the couch then be worried something in your marriage is pee'ing him off , people always think the only reason men dont want sex is because of medical reasons , or because they have low self esteem , or issues at work , these excuses were invented by men for men and women have heard it enough they actually believe it and use that as an excuse when answering questions in here , girl's wake up out of all the above answer's the only 1 that maybe viable is medical or tired from early work shifts , other then that if your man is telling you anything else he's a liar so open the eyes my dears.

men get annoyed if the house is always a mess and the wife doesnt work and i dont mean 100% spotless shining like a star , I mean if the floor looks like a paper mache collage his kid did in school , the washing up never done before the next night's dinner is cooked , the vacuuming , mopping , clothes folded , general chore's that you cant get kid's under the age of 7 to do .

So if your house looks like a cyclone (tornado) hit and it's not just the kid's toy's but clothing , paper's , letter's , you cant see the couch for blanket's and pillow's , then of course your man isnt going to feel invigorated to perform , they are like women in that sense they want a home that is good enough for visitor's to stop by unannounced and not worrying what they'll think.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Talk to him about it. Maybe there was someone in his past that didn't like to be touched unless she touched him first. Just like you were touched so much before, you aren't getting the same attention now... he probably got into many arguements in the past with his ex to where he picked up that habit of not trying to be too touchy-grabby? Sorry, does that make sense?

It's a habit that some people get use to because they feel that the other person likes it that certain way.. I'm sure he wants to touch you but is afraid that you'd get mad at him like his ex did before? Just a guess..

Answer 4

Unless you have kids together, I would find another husband. I believe that one of the most important responsibilities that married couples have is take care of each others sexual needs completely and passionately. If fidelity is the expectation, then being an attentive considerate lover and spouse is necessary. If this man will not take care of you the way you need to be cared for, I believe that he has failed as a husband and as a man.

I'd give him every chance in the world before moving on but unless you have children together, I'd move on so that you can love and be loved in the manner that you deserve.

Answer 5

verbal replace is best. you've got a protracted sit down with him an ask why he's being so distant. in case you prefer to save your marriage and stay husband and spouse, then that's the 1st step. once you're uncertain of what you prefer to do, then nevertheless sit down and communicate with him. tell him the way you experience and notice the place he's coming from besides. according to hazard you 2 do could divorce and doubtless you in common terms could re benefit your intimacy. commence doing issues jointly, whether it is in common terms a visit to the food market.

Answer 6

You should talk to him and ask why he wont touch you.Or one other thing is well you might not like too but go into a room alone with him and start makeing out or dont do anything.

Answer 7

You need to talk to him or write him a note to find out what's up. You might try dressing sexy in the evening while he is watching tv and prance around. If that doesn't work, go talk to a counselor.

Answer 8

I was married to a woman who was not physically affectionate for 12 years.

Wish it had only been 2...

Answer 9

There are many reasons why this might be happening. Some of them might be medical and some of them might be psychological. If you don't feel comfortable communicating with your husband about this by yourself, perhaps marriage counseling would help.

Answer 10

Was he this way before you got married? Have your tried talking to him? Maybe he needs to see a doctor....could be a problem with his testosterone levels...may even suggest a sex therapist

Answer 11

I know how you feel. Almost one year with no sex here. I can't offer an easy solution, but think about whether or not you can live this way.