My cousin who is 42 years of age, very pretty, talented, and with a good personality and of decent reputation is always in church praying and praying for others. When I introduce her to men, she always says: "I want a man with a good pure heart with good intentions not just anyone."
My family especial has been trying to set her up with a lot of dates. She is not picky, but just too religious, and too virtuous.
What are your suggestions?
2007-10-10 11:04:53 · 9 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think anybody can be too close to God or too virtuous. If God isn't ready to marry her away from Him yet, then it's not going to happen yet. God may not have marriage in mind for her, a lot of people can concentrate on God way better when they don't have a spouse to attend to!
Hey, I'm 26. No dates, ever. Nobody even in sight. Know why? I have 2 requirements for a husband; he must be a strong, Bible-believing Christian and he has to want to marry me. That's it, and not ONE guy has ever met both. It's not hard to find nobody to marry. Tell her that at least I understand her!
2007-10-10 11:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anniekd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the dangers in being heavily pious is the tendency to become perfectionist towards our dealings with other people. Your cousin risks becoming what I call a "widow for God". Lots of women unfortunately fall into this trap, and it's the exact opposite of what most religious texts would argue they do.
Try to approach her from a common-sense viewpoint first and remind her that nobody is perfect, and she is trying too hard to find something that doesn't exist.
From a religious standpoint, remind her that (assuming you're Christian) Jesus himself acknowledged the evil that lurks in the back of all men's hearts. Tell her not to look for Mr. Perfect, but Mr. Trying To Be The Best He Can. That's when she'll know she's found a godly man.
2007-10-10 18:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set her up with someone who "wants a woman with a good pure heart with good intentions not just anyone... Someone who is not picky, but just too religious and too virtuous".
2007-10-10 18:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every week she should "Church Shop".... Chances are she knows all the single men where she worships and it never went anywhere.
If she goes to different services, events and classes at different local churches, her chances will improve dramatically that she will find a like minded man!
Good luck!
2007-10-10 22:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This book might help your cousin: "How to Find a Date Worth Keeping". It's written from a Christian perspective and gives very good advice about dating.
2007-10-10 18:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and let her be married to the church. Maybe she is looking for some one as righteous as jesus and she will never find that person. If she wants someone then she can take the time to find them.
2007-10-10 18:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kelliegh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. Why can''t you let her live her live the way she likes? Yes she picky but it's her choice, so if she never finds a man she never finds a man.
2007-10-10 18:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by harold 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she'll never find him. I am the same and I have never met anyone at least half decent.
2007-10-10 18:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her find her own man.
2007-10-10 18:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋