why do people molest children?

Question

like, how is that attractive? they arent developed or anything. like...why? does molest mean like...feeling them up? or also have actual sex too? god i dont know. why would men do that with kids?WHY!

Answer 1

People are attracted to children due to their brain wiring, just as some people are attracted to fat people, some to red-heads, some to Asians, and some people are attracted only to people who weigh less than 100 lbs, and even people who are homosexual. There's a plethora of attractions!

That being said, there is also another side to this. For thousands of years the ideal marriage age for a woman was 10-14, a 16 year old girl who was unmarried was considered an old maid in some societies. Because of thousands of years of this type of training, I believe that it definitely contributes to the number of people attracted to early teens.

However, you're wrong in your assumption that men only do this. Plenty of women do this as well, however, they're not lynched and hated as men are.

Answer 2

I don't think there's an easy answer to your question. It's really a psychological illness in most cases. I remember hearing about how some men actually want to be castrated, because they hate themselves for what they do but can't help it. Others were molested themselves as children. No matter what the case it's a sad, sick thing.

My mom's friend just divorced her husband because she found out he's been looking at child porn and exposing himself to their 13 year old daughter. He also apparently exposed himself to a number of her friends (though not my mom, thankfully), and also nicknamed his daughter's boobs and used to crawl into her bed naked and wait for her to come in from the shower. Now he's trying to get joint custody of the kids and is already engaged to another woman with two young children. *Shudder** I pray to God the court systems don't fail us on this one.

Answer 3

God only knows...something happened to them as children--probably molested by their parents or close family member

Not knowing that this is wrong, growing up like that has become a normal situation--they can't comprehend due to the fact that they were never taught properly

Not just physical disorderly, but mental abuse too

Women are also guilty--not just men

Age of the abused is not a factor--the sick-O is searching/in the need of any kind attention from people

Answer 4

They were molested as children too.

It gives them a sense of power. It usually starts out with touching and progresses to sex. So awful--the child is forever scarred.

It is a disgusting, terrible cycle. So many child molesters are incurable.

Answer 5

I can't wrap my brain around that either. I don't get how some sick human can be so selfish that they willingly ruin a childs innocents so that they can pleasure themselves. They are all VERY sick individuals. MONSTERS!!!
Unfortunitly, hun, molesting means a variety of things which in touching or even talking inappropriatly all the way to the worst you can think of.
Very very sad. I wish that no child be hurt like that.

Answer 6

because they are sick and should be castrated because there have been studies done that even the sex offender "rehabilitation" that they offer in prison does not remove that sick desire from their perverted heads it only teaches them to ignore it now you tell me if you have a drug problem and you were forced to be "rehabilitated" or you cannot return to society, what would you do
these men and women are not rehabilitated unless they want to be they just tell people what they want to hear until it gets them their way
the difference is that a drug adict is mostly distroying themselves but a child molester is causing damage to a child that will be in their head for the rest of their life
even if the child does not remember the act itself the damages will show in their everyday lives
it makes them who they are wether they want it to or not it defines them
it is seen in the way the act with the opposite sex and the same sex and it influences the way the raise their kids or even if they have kids i could go on for days but i won't

Answer 7

I am a crim. defense attorney, so I have met a few of these guys, but don't normally represent them. By the way, it's important to be asking these types of questions, because how can we solve this problem unless we have this information? In my experience, there are a couple of different categories, but some cases may involve more than one category and others may not fit so neatly in any category. These categories are often lumped together, but are really very different acts, in my opinion.

One type is drug addicts or alcoholics who don't know what they are doing that well and have no social constraints because of the effects of the drugs. It is not uncommon for a mother to be addicted to drugs and have lots of other druggies coming and going from the house, and one of those druggies messes with the kids, but the mom is too stoned to know about it. I run into this type of situation sometimes in social services cases.

Another category is people who are essentially children themselves and relate better with children, since they feel they are on the same level- these are usually young adults who don't have the social skills or intelligence of others their age, so they hang around with children and this can lead to sex.

Another category is people who have a very strong compulsion (similar to an addiction) to young people. These are the ones you usually read about having lots of victims- they often put themselves in positions where they come into contact with children. These guys have very strong sexual attractions to children, and their victims are often younger than in the other categories. One of these types committed suicide in my town, which if you think about it, is actually a rational, compassionate act. Since he couldn't quit and he didn't want to harm children anymore, and if he sought treatment, he would be reported to child protective services, he apparently thought the best alternative was to shoot himself in the confession booth at the Catholic Church. Sad.

I'm not a shrink, but I think that the answer to your question- why are they attracted to children is that often these guys were deprived of their own childhoods psychologically. They were often abused themselves as children, or otherwise lost their own childhoods psychologically, and they are subconsciously trying to regain what they lost. They are trying to reconnect with it through sexual intercourse. They hate themselves for it at the same time.

Meanwhile, if they go to a counselor and admit to sexually abusing children, the counselor is required by law to report it to child protective services, so there is no way they can get treated. I am not excusing their behavior, but you asked so I am trying to explain it, and that is the best answer that I have been able to come up with.

Another category is just horny low-life guys who have sex with younger teenagers- 14 or 15, who are usually very developed. If a guy is over 18 and is dating a younger teenage girl, this can lead to sex. Not knowing the actual age of the girl is not a defense to this- you are assumed to know her age, even if she lies about it and looks older. Commonly referred to as jail bait.

Then, there's a category of false accusations, which often come up in the context of child custody and divorce cases, where one parent tries to get back at the other parent by coming up with sex abuse charges.

Once someone is alleged to have sexually abused a child, the child is repeatedly interviewed with each interviewer already knowing what the allegations are and the child knowing what the "right answer" is. The interviewer isn't trying to be objective. For example, if the alleged perpetrator is supposed to be a female, if the child brings up a male perpetrator, the interviewer quickly changes the subject to get the child to give the right answer and then at trial, you have a series of interviewers all saying the same thing so it sounds like a great case, but it's all really a house of cards, because the child has been coached into saying it from the start by the parent who is angry at the ex. This is a nightmare situation for a parent, but is fairly common.

Sexual touch is a different charge, but is also molestation- still felony, but not as much prison time. In NC, we call it indecent liberties. This can be any sort of sexualized touching, including breasts and may even include no touching- just observing.

I hope this helps you understand things better. I know that most people prefer not to think about it and just call these guys monsters or whatever, but there are real answers to these questions.

Best wishes.

Answer 8

women do it too! but anyway i don't understand it either, they have flat chests and still have baby voices, btu i think it might be because these people watn to have control of someone and the weakest people in society are children

i feel the same way about these guys i know, they are brothers, they flirt w/ 12 and 13 year old girls and get their phone #'s and they are 18, but i don't think they can handle someone w/ equal maturity.

Answer 9

Because they are sick in the head and need to be destroyed. I think that molesting means any touching of any kind at all.

Answer 10

I wish i knew how to answer that. My friends daughter was molested for 8 months by her dad. He would touch her in bad places and tell her to do things to him and stuff like that. Those people are just sick. It could be that they had it happen to them when they were young, I really don't know. I think thats just one of those things where you can't really answer it until you have experiance.Which I hope never happens.