We have been married for 14 years. 3 years later I gave birth to our son and 3 weeks later he had sex with my best friend in the back of her car. I found this out 7 years later and 2 more kids later. I asked if he had a girlfried and he said that he has been talking with a girl via phone, email and on business trips to CA. This has been going on for 3 years. He says that it is over and nothing sexually ever happened between them but I don't believe him. He say that I am the only one he loves and wants to be with. How do I know that he is not playing me again. Is it possible for him to change?
2007-10-10 08:41:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 10 years of cheating on you, do you really believe he's going to change?
2007-10-10 08:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I can't really say anything 'bout your marriage because I havn't been through that yet and don't know if I want to. But what I can tell you is that sometimes a man can change its very hard and rare like one out of a million can change you just have to decide weither he has or not. Theres a saying that goes "you can't teach a old dog new tricks" but I think differently. Maybe he has changed. It's like when you take things for granted and then you loose it, and then you realize how great it really was. But don't get me wrong I mean sometimes it will only be for a while that they will change the way you want them to be then back to square one the same thing all over again, a scratched record repeatidly going round and round. I think communication in a marriage is very important and maybe you should consider talking to him and try to knock some sense into him and go with what your instincts tell you because 90% of the time its right. What ever your gut tells you go with it. Good luck and hope your marriage gets better.
2007-10-10 15:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always possible, but I would say in your situation... not probable...
I am usually not the kind who believes "once a cheater, always a cheater" but this is a pattern of behavior, and you should pay attention to it
2007-10-10 15:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him. He shouldn't be talking to any woman on the phone except you and his mother. He is a cheater. He is playing games.
2007-10-10 15:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i'm sorry but your hubby is a cheater and a liar. he does not care about you b/c if he did he would change or he wouldn't be doing what he's doing. you can either saty and accept what he is and what he has told you. ask him if he is willing to go to counseling w/ you.
or you can drop his a** and move on.
2007-10-10 16:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by crystala_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; it's not possible for him to change. And he's lying to you about the no sex with his girlfriend. And don't kid yourself, he STILL has a girlfriend.
2007-10-10 15:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than one woman? More than one time? I doubt it. He stopped feeling guilty and lost his dignity long time ago. He won't ever change, sorry.
2007-10-10 15:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know he's going to do it again
2007-10-10 15:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by baylees 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he is PLAYIN' you BIG time.
2007-10-10 15:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋