or someone you're passionately into?
You can only pick either or.
2007-10-10 08:36:59 · 18 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
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2007-10-10 08:45:35 · update #1
OK Logically good: Good family, your fam loves him, educated, would make a great parent, kind, loyal- but no physical chemistry or excitement
Passionately: Fun, sex is mind blowing, you get the mutual butterflies whenever you're around each other, kind, mentally stimulating---but relationship has been an emotional rollercoaster, unstable career, not a bragful past and fam doesn't like him/her
2007-10-10 08:58:02 · update #2
Part of someone being logically good for me would be that I'm passionately into them. These two things aren't mutually exclusive. If there's no passion for this person, then marrying them would be extremely illogical.
Unless.... you're just talking about financially good rather than logically good.
Perhaps you should explain a bit more.
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Ok, well as long as this person isn't a cheater, I'd go with the passion. Don't care about the career, I do well enough on my own. Careers are lame anyway, I prefer owning assets that make me money.
The emotional roller coaster thing is open to interpretation, I suppose. Meaning, if she was into mind games or some garbage then I would passionately say, "Get the fark out." I'd have no passion for them at all if that's the case. I'm attracted to at least a fairly stable mind.
I wouldn't give one little turd of a care if my family likes her or not. It's my choice and my family knows that. Them liking her is just a bonus.
2007-10-10 08:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Passion and feelings are too unpredictable to base a long term relationship off of because emotions can change day to day. If you choose someone you're more compatible with, the relationship is more likely to stand the test of time. Whenever I chose someone that I was passionately into, the relationship was a disaster in the long run. So, if given the choice between the two -- it would be the one logically good for me.
2007-10-10 18:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Logically good. No question.
BUT I don't think people are ready for this until they've been around the block a few times with the whole passion thing...
I mainly say this bc if I spent my life upset about my relationship, I would miss out on SO many other things - friends, activities, bc I was so worried or upset about my relationship.
I think in about 5 years I'll be ready for that stability, and I sure hope it happens. Great sex is awesome, but sex is like a pizza...even when it's bad it's pretty good.
2007-10-10 17:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smile. A great question! I am married to a man who is logically good for me for over 17 years now, and we are deliriously happy together. At the time when my marriage took place, I was overcoming rape that happened a few years earlier. I had a very hard time trusting anyone... He showed me that he accepted all my pain and made it all go away. How could I not feel passionate about a man like that? I know that he is one of a kind, and I am proud to be his wife.
Now, in my youth I dated a very good looking man. We were incredibly passionate about each other, but there was absolutely nothing in common between us. We had no idea what love was. We had no idea who we were. I am glad, I did not marry him.
2007-10-10 15:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might be asking for too much, but I prefer logical and passionate.
Their nationality, family and income are irrelevant, as long as the person does work, and some of my family isn't necessarily the greatest, so I don't expect theirs to be either...but I like to be stimulated mentally, physically and emotionally, along with having stability, balance in every aspect of the relationship.
2007-10-10 17:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Quelararí 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The odds of success weigh on the side of logic, based on the divorce rates of "love" (aka "passion") marriages as compared to arranged (aka "logic") marriages.
There are probably multiple reasons for the "success" delta; however, I know quite a few people, including my assistant, who are very happy and have grown to love their mate despite not having great passion out of the shoot.
So, bottom line, true, objective logic probably has a greater likelihood of success.
2007-10-10 17:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stablility or love and passion? No way i would go for someone who was logically good for me...i would rather be with someone who was a bit more of a gamble but there was more feeling in it.
Like the film The Good Girl! She should have left with Holden!
2007-10-10 16:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by emilyomelette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who is Logically good for me. Later on passion will be developed. Time and Love will help doing that~!
2007-10-10 15:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd choose to marry a person I'm passionate about. Logic is boring.
2007-10-10 17:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by wadacious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love the person enough, sure. But not just for the sex. No relationship can be based on sex.
2007-10-10 18:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by Scott W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋