Am i making a big thing...?

Question

i do my hubbys lunch box for work each day, he keeps it in a rucksack that has lots of pockets.

He took our recently processed holiday photos to show his work mates who happen to be mostly female.

I emptied his bag earlier on to do his box, and noticed the photos at the bottom, i took them out and later on decided to place them in the album.

I discovered that the photos were only of him and the children, and the ones of me alone, with him and children were gone. Wondering where they were, i looked in his bag to see if they had fallen out...

and in the secret zip there they all were.

Am i making a big thing that he could of not shown these photos to his mates?

Is he ashamed of me?

why would he seperate these from the rest?

Answer 1

i would be annoyed-that is very strange!!!!!!x

Answer 2

ther are two ways to approach it, just ask him but dont assume the answer will be a bad one, they might not have been good pictures and he doesnt want to compromise you by having his colleagues point that out. Also assuming there are some men working with him as well as women, maybe he didnt want them to see the pictures. The other way is to actually look at your question, do you have some self esteem questions at the minute-dont you think you look good.
The first thing I would think if this happened to me would not be that he was ashamed of me, if i was truly suspicious I might think that perhaps he has told his female friends that he was on holiday without you. That would be something to worry about. So I would go with the ask him politely suggestion and give him a chance not to hurt your feelings.

Answer 3

You cannot assume that he only showed certain pics to the chicks. Fact is that you don't know. You could be making a giant mountain out of a molehill, for example:
1) He could have dropped those and just put them back in a different pocket.
2) He could keep them apart so that it is easier for him to look at your pics during the day.
3) Maybe he was showing one of the guys his hottie wife and that guy didn't really care about seeing the other group of shots.
I could go on, but there could be a zillion explanations. Before you get bent out of shape, you just plain need to talk to him. Ask him your questions, not the people out here on YA. Tell him you were confused and would like to know why you found the pics the way that you did.

Answer 4

If I were you I would definitely confront him, because he's obviously told the women that he works with that the two of you and no longer together and that he treated the kids to a holiday. How would he like it if the situation was reversed I'm sure that he'd have a few things to say.

You aren't making a big thing of it, you just want some answers

Answer 5

Men are odd that way - sometimes they feel things are too intimate for the workplace - perhaps there are some men at work who he would prefer didn't see your picture. My husband let his colleagues see our wedding pics which are online but one of two of them liked the look of me too well and he said that when I visit his work, if anyone looked at me in a way he didn't like, he would smash their faces in! He wont show them anymore because he doesn't like the way they talk about women....Perhaps your husband has the same problems with his male colleagues!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It may or may not. The strategic and diplomatic way is to always give the benefit of the doubt. Innocent "until" proven guilty.

You should also seek to find solutions and what can be done to make things right, better, etc. over seeking a problem.

So, on that note, find a good time to sit down for a one on one and explain how it made YOU feel. Say things in a non-blaming, non-fingerpointing way. When you ___,it made me feel ___, It would make me feel ________ if you would show the whole family.

and always give a chance for him to redeem himself and not be in the "dog-house". Look and seek for opportunities for him to be a hero and reassure you that he is faithful to you.

Answer 8

my gf had a problem similar to what going through with her ex hubby. better ask him straight out and get a good reason and make sure he dont brush the question off sounds like he's "probably" taken a fancy to one of the lasses at work or just showing off to them.

if he werent ashamed of you he'd be showing your pic to them at work aswell.

Answer 9

I would be very hurt and angry. I would also put the pics back into the bottom of the bag. The ones with you in them I would frame and put on his desk at work.

Answer 10

OWCH! There are only two possibilities. Either he is ashamed of you or he's interested in someone at work as more than a friend. Either way it looks like you and him need to have a serious talk about your relationship.

Answer 11

I'd confront him as soon as possible. There should be no reason for him not to show his work mates the pictures of you. Has he got something to hide or is he ashamed? I'd want answers and i'd want them now! Go and drag them out of him! Good luck x