Hello everyone..I posted question regarding my problem yesterday.Thank you for the feedback.I want to move on but it's so hard and painful.If i try to win her back which is what i'm doing right now it is still a painful process.I love her so much.I really don't know what to do.I have prayed to god but i don't know all this sign is telling me to give up or try harder.For now i'm still trying to win her back.Hopefully even if my family is againts it but at least she know that my two sister do like her and welcome her to be in the family.All i know now is she still confuse to stay on with me or to follow her family choice.Both parents are persistent on not wanting us to be together.On my side it's my father and on her side it's her mother.I wish i know how to convince her to be strong and go through this rough time together with me.Any feedback would be deeply appreciated.
2007-10-10 07:40:52 · 7 answers · asked by Heartbroken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It'a over.#
2007-10-10 08:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just my experience, but I've found that after a long relationship it's almost impossible to be friends right away, I've always waited a long time to talk to them again, and it seems to work out fine. I understand the pain you feel, but if you keep trying to hang on to her she'll eventually start dating someone else, and that really stings. My advice it to seperate yourself from her as much as possible, and don't try anything till your feelings for her are gone. (Sounds Like Months.. at least) and you can think about it with a clear head. I can't tell you wheather to try and get her back or not, if she broke up with you I'd say absolutely not.
Your in a dangerous place, there's lots of things that can happen to cause you a lot of damage right now... trust me. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision!
2007-10-10 07:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Nate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether to go against her mother as it sounds like you have gone against your dad, or to keep peace in the family...that is something only she can decide. If she chooses family then you can't hold it against her, but talk to her and ask her if when you are both out from under your parents' thumbs if she would be with you. If her answer is in the negative, you need to move on. Don't torture yourself over this. Live your life with no regrets. And God does hear you, sometimes His answer is no. He has something better planned for the both of you. Trust in that.
2007-10-10 07:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you want to win her back you need to stop sounding like a crying whining baby. You need to be strong and only show confidence in her presences. You will not win her back by begging or crying, she see's this as weak and pathetic. When you talk to her, talk like a friend. Don't ever sound desperate and don't try to get mushy with her.
So work on yourself so you can be happy with who you are, which brings confidence in yourself. You will be far better off if you can accomplish this, and it's also the best way to win her back.
Wish you the best.
2007-10-10 08:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI heartbroken1 My now ex left me a week ago for younger co-worker /his roomate (suppo. to be lesbian).
I am in the same boat, I am trying to get him back after he left me for the 2nd time for her (how sick). You propably can't eat sleep or focus on anything! I feel your pain it hurts like no other life sucks.
You should let her go sit back and wait (for a few weeks)if she wants to come back it will be her move. I for myself swimming in this pool of missery but i see i am not the only one.
Wish i could give you a hug and talk to you keep your head up go on you did all you can do @ this point good luck i hope she comes back if that is what you want.
2007-10-10 07:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, you can't force her to stay with you. Trying to do so will just push her out of your life even faster. Take a break stop calling, stop talking, let her make the next move you've already made numerous attempts.
2007-10-10 07:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by jay k 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are way too involved in what other people think.
make up your own mind. don't worry about the families.
2007-10-10 07:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋