I was told my whole life that there is someone out there for everyone. Is it just 1 person out there and you just have to find them or what do you guys think? Is there really only 1 person out there for you?
2007-10-10 07:18:19 · 19 answers · asked by Ultimate Guitar Hero! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have problems with that saying. For one thing, where did it come from? It's not from the Bible. I think it is something that parents thought up to comfort their children who were worried that they would never find someone.
I'm 64 y/o and had relationships with 4 women that I loved and who loved me at the same time. The 4th one and I got married. We got divorced 20 years later. I worked as a RN on a psychiatric unit for 20 years and studied a lot about relationships.
It would be wonderful if all we had to do was find the person meant for us and we would be happy for ever after. I think it is more complicated than that.
If you want to marry a good man, you have to be the type of woman he would be attracted to. That means that if you want to marry a man who has good character and good morals, you have to have those qualities yourself. You also have to put yourself in situations where there are going to be a number of men like that.
You need to find a man with good communication skills so that each of you can share your internal self with each other and so that you can resolve issues in your relationship and still feel loving toward each other. Of course you have to have those skills also.
I like a saying, "To have to have a happy marriage you have to marry the right person and you have to be the right person".
There is a book I recommend, "Getting The Love you Want - A guide For Couples", by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. It goes into many reasons why our instincts cause us to be attracted to people who may not have the qualities or personality that are needed to have a happy, harmonious relationship with us.
It also talks about how to make a conscious decision to be with someone who is right for us. My best wishes for you.
I do believe that it helps a lot to ask God to bring someone into our life that is right for us and for us to recognize that person.
2007-10-10 18:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , In my heart I know it. though we may never find them, or find them and let them go, because the timing wasn't right.
Yes, we'll all find someone or two or three or 3000,but we rarely find the one. The one who's smile melts your heart. they'll know your needs , you don't have to speak them and when they leave the room , the world is a lonely place. When they come into the room , they bring the light.
They are the only ones that can calm you , comfort you and fill you.
you can have moments of joy and happiness with another, but it will never be like the one.
If you have ever had the one and let them go, you will dream of them forever , no matter who you are with and when you are alone , it's their face you see.........
2007-10-10 15:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I DO.
I believe there is only ONE person for ME. No second chances and second times for me.
I am 27 and so choosy but I believe myself and that ONE is an awesome number.
But people mistake things and make rash mistakes and then regret it.
Its just once. I am waiting and I know that the wait will never hurt me. I am that one package for the man who wants me. So life is too short for regrets. Just best to be happy. Doing what we love.
Be sure when you find him and make sure he thinks the same way about you. Make sure it lasts forever once and once and only once. MG
2007-10-10 14:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i really do think so. I dont know why- it's something ive believed my whole life- noones told me it i just believe it. Im only 14 so maybe ill grow out of it but i certainly believe in MR. RIGHT
2007-10-10 14:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by DiamondKiss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There are many people who are meant to be in your life, just at different times. In the end you choose the person you want to be with based on the experiences youve had with the others.
2007-10-10 14:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by jen mcg 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's true there is someone out there for you the only hard part is finding them.
2007-10-10 14:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not like a fairy tale where its just gonna happen
you gotta try hard and find that person
(and you have to learn from previous relationships what you REALLY want in a partner)
2007-10-10 21:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually there is only one person for evryone..all people are for evrybody but someone's feeling is strongest while someone's the least.for ex,my boyfriend is the one person for me because he has got the strongest feelings for mee which of course doesnot mean that my parents are unimportant..they are also caring but they are not the one for me..they also have feelings for me but not as strong as my BF
2007-10-10 14:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by riya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't eliminate same-sex relationships, yes, there is somebody special for every single person in this universe.
2007-10-10 14:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by crowbird_52 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think that. Only because you change so much. Someone that was the one for me when I was twenty is not the same one for me now.
2007-10-10 14:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Susan F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋