Is it possible to start my life over?
I am currently in college and i have a couple friends. Yea they have been there for me. But I don't trust them at the same because all they do is gossip about other people and it makes me paranoid about whether or not they are talking about me. Like if they talk about what I tell them because I have witnessed them do it to this other girl who is supposedly their "friend." I mean apart from that they've been there for me like I told you. Am I overexaggerating?
Honestly I don't see them as a part of my life in the future. I mean I will still be in contact, there's no doubt about that but I just don't see them as people that I can actually trust and trust is a big thing for me because I've been let down so many times in my past.
The reason why i asked if i can start my life over is because I plan on moving to a different state for graduate school (california) where I would have to meet new people.
Is it possible? I am a 20 year old woman, college student and confused about my life....
2007-10-10 07:14:28 · 14 answers · asked by . 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Honey, you will start your life over many times as you grow into an adult, and beyond.
You will learn alot in this lifetime. You'll have many experiences, you'll meet many people. Your faith in humanity and in yourself will be tested many times.
From my point of view, I say follow your own path. Live in accord with yourself. Don't try to spend your life pleasing other people; please YOURSELF.
The fact that you have doubts about these "friends" of yours, shows you're an introspective person. This is wonderful. It's important to be cautious of the behaviors of others. All is not as it seems. People can have hidden motives. Forgive yourself when you trust those who are unworthy of your trust. Learn to love and respect yourself above all others.
These aren't just words I am writing; they are truths.
Feel free to contact me anytime for encouragement.
Best wishes as you grow into a happy, well-adjusted adult.
2007-10-10 08:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be confused with your life. What you are going through and experience is somthing that many of us have experienced before - so it's not a big deal that you have not yet found the person that you trust - you are 20 years old, there are plenty of time in the furture :)
Yes, it's good that you are going to keep your current friends in contact, never burn any bridges. and Yes, moving to another school is a fresh start and may be the very thing you are looking for but don't get dissapointed if you find the exact same people in the new place you moved to, I still find them way into the office culture :). The right friend, like the right love, are difficult to find and when you find them, you'll know.
Good luck with your school.
2007-10-10 07:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Red Rabbit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its amazing coincidence that you and me happend to have the same thing going on. i just want to say nothing ever last. u will be ok soon if not now. isolation is always in your mind. a new life is absolutely possible. i dont know though with the girls situation. because i am a boy. one more coincidence is that i am also 20 starting my uni that is in new zealand. eventhough the first cut is deep dont cut your self the second time. but u have to think alot though. be positive. be firm. stand tall. if u think trust is a big deal for you and u cnt trust your friends. then u know u cant be confuse in deciding what to do next. again nothing ever last.
2007-10-10 11:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by kalay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your life has just begun but each new day begins with the chance to begin again. We all learn by making mistakes. They teach us to make better choices. Every choice teaches us something as every every moment is as new as the next, No one knows how many moments we have or how many we waste . Try to make each one count for what you feel is a step towards a better you, a happier, more complete you, defined by your own needs. You can only become truly valuable to others when you value yourself. BE the image that you can live with in your own mirror the first day...every day and you will never be sorry. Even if you look look tired or sick, the 'inner' you will always shine through.
2007-10-10 07:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by midnite rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you do not hurt the feelings of others life then theres no problem with that.. sometimes its crazy to realize that there are some people who actually do some gossip but its just a part of observation that someone might rather know more some updates about you esp. to your friends but it doesn't mean that they have the intention to let you down.. they just want to be informed... others do with some people not related to you but all you have to do is to ignore them.. its just a waste of time.. theres no wrong to trust someone as long as they do deserve it but leave sometime for yourself know your limitations as well... there some person who is really kind that show concern in a way that will help you to grow and be a better person so be wise to choose the quality of friends you have.... and yes it is possible to start life over i know you can do it just believe in yourself that you can and you will just do it for good. :)
2007-10-10 07:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by blue_prince23 P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're confused about your life--at 20 your brain isn't even fully developed. And I'm not being mean or sarcastic. The portion of the brain which makes sound desicions is still in the works for you, so just weigh your options very carefully.
That being said, If someone or something is anything but positive influence in your life--get rid of it.
Surround yourself with positive influence and people you can learn from.
Start now.
2007-10-10 07:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly you're actually not a lone loner ;) I unquestionably have felt this way for many of my existence. i've got by no skill slot in everywhere and human beings constantly take care of me like i'm so atypical... I wager you're rather proficient and sensible and likewise are trustworthy and variety. Please PLEASE understand which you're actually not a waste of breath! It unquestionably seems such as you have some melancholy occurring, some thing i've got dealt with too. have you ever seen chatting with a therapist? For me it enables to renowned that i'm not strange... now and returned I only don't understand why i think of plenty in a distinctive way then every person else... i ask your self what might ensue if 2 loners have been to hold out ;) do not provide up!
2016-10-06 10:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it is possible to start over and make new friends. You just have to be mindful of the people you attract to you and the types of people you are attracted to. You dont want to go to Cali and make new friends with the same exact types of people. The problem might not be your friends, it might be you...espially if you like people for superficial reasons like beauty, wealth, popularity....Sometimes the loners, outcast and nerds and the best people in the world.
...and yeah if they're gossip about other people then you can be 110% sure that they're gossiping about you!
2007-10-10 07:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by susieozbornehiphop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to start your life over..you are just adding another chapter. You will almost meet folk and you have to place them into categories. I have ONE TRUE friend that I trust with my life. I believe in her soo much. We have been buddies for 20 years and I can't imagine her not being in my life. You will have friends and you will have people you know. Keep focused on your education and career and enjoy the good times and learn from the bad....such as life!
2007-10-10 07:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it possible, but it's a sure sign of being an individual moving forward in their life with the possibilities of good things to come. Congratulations!
2007-10-10 07:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sandie B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋