2007-10-10 07:13:25 · 21 answers · asked by Wisdom Seeker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is she buying stuff that the family really needs and that there just isn't the cash for, or is she doing frivilous spending.
Sometimes women are more likely to spend based on "man does not live by bread alone" and buy things for the house, with the idea that it will make life better for the family. They may be more aware of how important a new dress is for a daughter's prom. Sometimes men lean toward "if it isn't food or heat you don't need it".
Women may also use credit cards for things like paying other bills or paying pediatricians. Men are more likely to say, "Just don't pay them."
If your wife if doing frivolous spending tell her you want to close the joint accounts. She can get her own. If she's spending on family needs maybe if you both discuss why she sees something as important (and if you're open to respecting that she may understand family's emotional needs a little more) you'll be less frustated. Maybe, too, the two of you can work out some kind of plan so the family won't be deprived completely.
2007-10-10 07:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you really need the credit card, tear that up and switch to a debit card for each of you. When you put money in it, she will have a limited amount to spend. You might also learn how to set up a budget - there are sites online that can help you do that - so that she has a set amount to spend and then she has to wait until the next pay check before she can spend more.
2007-10-10 07:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the card to tiny bits and close the account. You should work very hard, both of you, to pay off all your credit card debt. It's the worse kind of debt you can have. My husband and I did it several years ago, and now we don't even have any credit cards. Anything that we would need a credit card for, we just use our debit card.
2007-10-10 07:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she buying? Junk thats not needed?? If thats the case, maybe take the cards for now and tell her its just to pay off a little so she can "have more to spend later" If she is buying things that are needed, then there is nothing wrong with it, just hard sot to be in. I meen, how can you punish her if she is buying food, gas, or other things needed to survive? Check the history, and talk with her
2007-10-10 07:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll get away with as much as you let her get away with. If talking hasn't cured anything, then you could do as suggested by others and get the card physically away from her. I like the idea of allowances, because that way she can still have freedom to spend money, but a limited amount of money.
2007-10-10 07:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 21:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the card. You could even cancel the card and just continue to pay it off.
2007-10-10 07:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up another card which only you have.
Pretty soon the joint card will become her card.
Then SHE can figure out how to pay for it.
2007-10-10 07:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of this card and others if you've got them. Maybe you could just get a card for yourself (that she isn't aware of) in case of an emergency??
2007-10-10 07:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Farmer Chic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what??? its a bad idea..
when u married to her.. two people become in one..lol
if u love her, just tell her what u want her to do., dont spend too much money...or let her spend the money...well, u can make the money, so its no big deal..
My hubby will never do that to me..He gives me more credit cards and let me spend the money....lol..
Just talk to her... good luck!!!
2007-10-10 07:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by back2future 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋