I have been thinking about this for a long time and it really has me ticked off. I want some of your opinions on this too. I am open to what ever you say good or bad. Do you believe in abortion? Do you really know how they abort the babys? Do you know what happens to them after they abort them? I do and it is not a pretty site!!!!!!!!!!!!! The way I see it you made the mistake you knew exactly what you were doing when you did the deed. If you get pregnant then that is your fault. (I am NOT talking about the poor women who have been raped).There are millions of couples who would love to have a baby and can't. Why not give it to them if you don't want it? Some say the timing is just not right. Is nine months to long to put your life on hold for something as precious as a baby?
Do you realize that if your mother had an abortion and gave up you, you would not be here either?
2007-10-10 07:07:04 · 17 answers · asked by Laughing with you not at you 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i agree with what your saying and just a couple weeks ago i was put in this position. my boyfriend kept saying we weren't financially ready but i told him he was sure as hell ready every night so i decided to keep the baby... plus i didnt want to live with that kind of regret later on
2007-10-10 07:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you already have some opinions on this subject, but I really appreciate your being open to the opinions and thoughts of others. There are much discussed exceptions, for cases of rape, incest, where continuation of the pregnancy might threaten the mother's life. There are also situations where an accidental pregnancy is not the only accident that has happened and there has been exposure to drugs or substance abuse, which exposure at times might not be able to be immediately terminated as is the case with some highly addictive drugs such as heroin and cocaine and fetal addiction can occur if the pregnancy is continued. Some cases where VERY underage girls become pregnant - if it were a crime they'd committed, their record would be expunged once they became an adult (I know, dependent on the crime) - having a child has implications that reach far into the future. How child birth, parenthood, and giving a child up for adoption affect each person psychologically is different. There are so many different situations, and so many different people, that I think it's good for each person to have the right to make the decision about what's right for them in their particular situation at that time in their life.
2007-10-10 14:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by General Patent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize that you are not really asking a question but ranting and raving about something that most people already have their minds made up about?
Yes, I believe it is a woman's choice. Yes, I know how pregnancies are terminated. Yes, I know what happens to the products of conception after the procedure. But I don't believe that you do - you might think that you know after reading some anti-abortion literature - but you really don't.
Yes, I totally doubt that you really know what goes on and what agonizing most women go through when faced with this very tough choice.
Are you a virgin? Do you understand that sometimes, despite best attempts, that birth control fails? Do you understand the risks of carrying a pregnancy to full term and through delivery? Do you have any idea, at all, the psychological trauma that many women go through after giving up a baby for adoption?
Do you know that your exaggerated claim that there are MILLIONS of deserving couples just waiting to give some poor child a good home - is just that - exaggerated? I'm sure there are many (NOT millions) couples who would happily adopt a healthy white baby - but what about babies that aren't lily white, have birth defects, or are in some other way "not desirable" on the adoption market?
You are obviously very young or just plain immature. Try to learn some more about life before you start judging people about things you have no understanding of. You have never been poor, hungry, or without a roof over your head. You have never wondered where your next meal is coming from. I'm guessing you are sitting in your well furnished home, warm, healthy, well-fed, enjoying some time on your expensive computer.
You've never been faced with the decision of how you would feed a child, provide health care for one, still work your crummy minimum wage job or finish school - just because a condom broke.
Until you are faced with a situation like that - or develop some empathy for women who do face those kind of situations - you have nothing to say that is of any real value on this subject to me.
I've been lucky not to have to face that choice and am a very proud and happy mom of one - and have another on the way. I have worked in healthcare my whole life, specializing in women's issues. Get some life experience, dear, and judge not lest ye be judged!!!
2007-10-10 14:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do know what happens in an abortion. And yes, it's horrible. Personally, I wouldn't have one if I accidentally conceived. Do I believe in abortion? Ehh...I don't think I support it or am against it.
But some people need to have the option of an abortion, because of the rape victims, and sometimes abuse. Teens also may try to do it themselves if they do not have the option of an abortion. And if that happens, most likely it will not turn out good, and two lives will be lost instead of one.
Those "day after" pills are the same way. I think I dislike those pills more than an abortion because the people who use those (my own opinion) are the more careless ones.
2007-10-10 14:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Blahblahblah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is, abortion is legal in this country. Even if you get ticked off, women still have a RIGHT to get one if that is what they choose. I know full well how they abort babies. I'm a nursing major and I also did some research when I was considering having one. Although I opted not to, I could never tell someone else what to do with her body. Do you not understand that you can't force your beliefs onto someone else? I'm sorry, but that's ignorant. Also, posting about this topic again and again is ignorant. Oh, and yeah, if my mom had aborted me I would not be here. Wow. What a realization. Get a life and stop talking about this on here!
2007-10-10 14:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa G 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This debate has gone on since at least 1973 if not before. I will say that i see your point, but i don't think abortion is a black and white issue. I don't put my self in the category of pro life or pro choice. Personally, I will have more compasion for say a 14 year old whose 20 year old "boy friend" got her pregnant and whose body can't handle being pregnant having an abortion. Over a 30 year old who has many sexual partners and knows the consquences.
2007-10-10 14:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by lm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religious views aside.....the argument that it is your body and your choice is flawed. For starters at no time does the blood of the mother and the child intermingle. There is a thin membrane between the two that acts as a go between to bring food and O2 for the child and take away CO2 and waste.
Second.....The only difference between an newly conceived child in the womb and an 80 year old is level of development. Sex and all other features are determined at conception....what determines that DNA....DNA remains unchanged (baring radiation or other bad things) from conception till death.
The pro choice folks try to split hairs and say that it is not a human or not even alive because there is no hear beat early on. The fact is they are human at conception and DNA proves it.
What should you do if you don't want or can't support the child...adoption. The child gets to live and you are released from the results of messing around too young or being raped.
2007-10-10 14:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
*yawn*
1. I believe in it, because it exists. Maybe you should have asked "Do you agree with abortion" instead?
2. Yes, I'm a nurse, so I know how they do it.
3. See #2, I know what happens after.
4. Because sometimes adoption isn't an option - sometimes abortion protects the life of the mother.
5. See #5.
6. I was adopted in 1973, 7 months after Roe v. Wade came into effect. I love my birth mother for her choice, but if she had aborted me and I never existed, then I wouldn't feel anything about it now because I never existed!
Nobody likes the idea of abortion, but sometimes it is necessary, and it isn't up to you or anyone else to decide when it is necessary and when it is not. If you don't like abortion, don't have one. And mind your own business when it comes to people who do - they're the ones who have to live with it, not you.
2007-10-10 14:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i am very pro-choice, and had an abortion when i was 16 myself. I had mine at 5 weeks. i don't think it's fair to pass judgement on someone that you don't know, everything is circumstantial. Since having a child and another one on the way, i wouldn't personally be able to again, but every woman has a right to their body.
2007-10-10 14:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you consider the need for an abortion when the mother's life and health is in danger?
2007-10-10 14:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Meg 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋