2007-10-10 06:54:56 · 35 answers · asked by Shortstuff 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell her "Yeah, right" and put the phone where she can't reach it. Better yet--let her call. Make sure she knows first that unless it's an emergency it's illegal to call 9/11. She thinks she can scare you into not punishing her and you need to let her know that ain't gonna happen.
If she deserves a spanking, by all means give it to her.
You're the momma. Be the momma.
2007-10-10 06:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by adrian♥ 6 · 22⤊ 4⤋
OK - I've got two teens who have turned out pretty well, so I think I'm qualified to help you with this very serious question.
I'm not against spanking - I spanked my kids when they were preschoolers - especially when they were doing things that were dangerous.
HOWEVER -- before we go on -
Let's define "spanking" - To me this means a few swats with a bare hand to a fully clothed bottom. If you are hitting your child's bare bottom, hitting her anywhere else, or hitting her with anything but your hand, that's not a spanking, it's a beating, and it's abuse.
Also - I'm going to assume that your child has done something that deserves a spanking - in other words that she has truly misbehaved and needs correction. If you are hauling off and hitting your child because you are having a bad day, it's not discipline, it's abuse.
You have to remember that spanking is a form of discipline that is always available and easy - but not always effective. If you spank your child, she will learn that you are bigger and stronger than she is, but she won't learn that you are wiser and more responsible, so it won't get you as much respect in the long run.
You are going to raise your daughter until she is 18, and obviously, you can't use spanking forever. I'd suggest you shift gears now, while you're still on the little stuff - so that you'll be able to keep her under control by the time she's older and you're dealing with the big stuff.
If your daugher is old enough to threaten to call 911 - she is old enough to reason with. Stop engaging her bottom - and start engaging her mind. She is ready for some form of consequence that lasts longer and has more impact than a swatted bottom. She is also old enough to discuss where she went wrong (after the situation cools down.)
Instead of spanking, I would suggest that you take away her privilages. No TV for a certain number of days. Or no computer. Or no playing with a certain friend. Or no allowance. Or maybe extra chores. Something along those lines. This sort of punishment is more work for you than giving her a spanking - but trust me, she will also probably dread it more - and you will see better results.
If she wants to call 911 and complain that you are not letting her watch TV for a week - dial the number yourself and hand her the phone!
2007-10-10 21:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by ceezee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can call 911 the next time that she does something that deserves punishment. Have the police come talk to her about what she did and what are the consequences for what she did. Better yet, take her to the police station. You may not want to call 911 but the non-emergency police number. Ask her if she would rather be punished by you or by the law. You may also inform her that the phone is yours and you can restrict her access to the phone.
2007-10-10 12:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Eric W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spank her again for abusing 911
2007-10-10 08:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that spanking is perfectly legal in the U.S.A. and the police might arrest her for wasting their time if she does call 911.
2007-10-10 17:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by vh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister tried that when she was... 8 I think.
It didn't work.
Mom (or was it dad...) just spanked her some more.
She never tried it again.
Just give her the phone and say, "Why don't you call 911, and order a pizza while we wait for 'em to get here."
As long as you aren't abusing her, she shouldn't call 911 or anything.
2007-10-10 10:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You go right ahead and call them, sweetheart. They will ask you WHY you got the spank in the first place.
Actually, I have a better solution...make her stand with her arms stretched out and put a pillow on her arms. However old she is, is how long she has to stand there holding the pillow. This is only AFTER she stops fussing. You tell her in an even tone. Your timeout will begin when you stop making a fuss. She has to keep the pillow up for the whole time, no bending the elbows. This is what they used on us in cadets and it is a GREAT deterrent. It looks easy to begin with, but that pillow gets MIGHTY heavy afetr two minutes. Give her the choice, she will choose the pilow. Follow through with it. See if she would rather do that. Then you are not laying a hand on her and she makes the choice to discipline herself, too.
2007-10-10 06:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by The Y!ABut 6 · 5⤊ 5⤋
My son actually said that to me the other day. I told him go ahead and I reminded him that when his older brought got into trouble with the police they told me to spank his ***. My older son said to the police man "Then I'll just call the police on her!" The police man said, go ahead nothing will happen to her.
2007-10-10 09:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her go ahead, and spank her. If your nervous look things up,I know in my area spanking on the butt won't get a parent in trouble.
2007-10-10 08:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
spank her, then when she calls 911 say it takes 10 min to get here so spank her even harder
2007-10-10 08:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by jrod 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Just tell her 2 use childline and when they ask "why were you spanked dear?" and she says "because i was naughty" they will hang up. You can also trick her. Call ur dad/husband to say that "you have a loving and beautiful mother". Or tie her up and tickle the hell out of her.
2007-10-10 08:18:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋