I have been living with one man for 27 years and now I've met another man who I adore. But I''m not sure if this 2nd man will keep close to me if I leave my first man?
2007-10-10 06:42:14 · 14 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to ask yourself some serious questions. Is it worth losing a man you love, who loves you, for someone you "adore"? And ask youself what is it about this person you "adore"?
I was married for 20 years and I did love my husband. I met someone and fell hard. What I came to understand that it was not the new man that I love but it was the feeling of falling in love again that I wanted so very much. The romance was gone from my relationship of 20 years. This new person could offer me all the "firsts" all over again. That first kiss, the first intimate incounter, that first touch. All those things that we take for granted with our long term relationships.
My advice is to examine your motives very carefully. If you truely love this person then life is short and you should go for it. But if it is the romance you are wanting then try to rekindle that feeling with your long term relationship.
And in answer to your question, you can live with one man and love another man but it is not fair to either man to do so.
Good luck to you
2007-10-10 06:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What the hell are you doing?
You are living with a man but met another and thinking about leaving? Have you banged him yet?
That would be called CHEATING!
If you leave your partner do you really think this great guy will want to move a proven cheater in on a permanent basis.
Life is always easy for a guy who can bang a partnered woman. All the sex and none of the crap that the guy at home has to deal with.
Why don't you ask your partner what he thinks you should do?
2007-10-10 06:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoring someone is only the first stage of love, before you see their faults.
Loving someone is knowing and accepting them completely.
In 27 years you must really know each other.
I think you just might be a little bore and not "in love" with this other man.
2007-10-10 07:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would the 2nd man leave you if you ended things with the 1st? That doesn't seem to make much sense. Doesn't he want you to leave him?
Anyway - it sounds like you're just staying with the old guy to play it safe. That's not fair to him. Either stay with him because you want to and leave the 2nd guy alone - or end things with the first guy and make a fresh start with the 2nd. I know it's easier said than done but you're making everyone's lives miserable while you're keeping things in limbo like you are.
2007-10-10 07:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stick with the one that you have had for 27 years but sit down and talk about what you can do to restart what you felt when you first got into the relationship. He may be feeling restless also and you need to start doing things to make your life exciting again.
2007-10-10 06:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah Rekindle your love for the man you have had for 27 years...Theres a saying about the boyfriend you got on the side and your DOUBTS you verified and just confirmed in your question and statements about the situation......
The saying goes( REF your side relationship) with your boyfriend "If HE can get the milk for free..WHY buy the cow??"""
Run back to your 27 year man..And love him like its his last day on earth everyday!!!! Trust me you will be glad you did...Good luck!!!
2007-10-10 06:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THIS is why your suppose to deal with ONE man at a time. You are clearly using your live in love until something better comes along...your selfish, because if you dont want the man your with...LET HIM GO!
2007-10-10 06:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there are so many peoples like you , and am one from the presons just as your case,
of course you cant live man and love another coz if the man you are living with know that you are loving other person or having love with him , he will be hearted , and he might make big problem with the man and he might make problem with you , so my advice to you is to be in save side and love the man whom you are living with
2007-10-10 06:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant have both, you need to decide what it is you want and fast or you could end up with no man
2007-10-10 06:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
27 years is a long time to throw away, esp if you're just going based on feelings, which come and go.
2007-10-10 06:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by amy m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋