i'm in hell, now what?

Question

I'm 20. In college, financially insecure, emotionally unstable (depression and anxiety). I had sex with a guy. He stopped once he saw I was crying. (I've been sexually abused in the past and sex makes me cringe). Anyhow, I found out I was pregnant. I was actually really excited. No one knew about him and I, but we had been in love for about 6 months. We both felt very blessed and started planning the best we could.

Only to have him confronted by the police. He has a bad habit of theft at work. Grand Theft, to be exact. Which is a felony. That you go to jail for. He's such a good and beautiful person though.

Only to get a MySpace message from 2 sisters that I didn't know existed, that my father hid from me. They had pictures with us together, birth certificates.

Only to have my 3yr old nephew get hit by a truck, barely live, now paralyzed.

Only to miscarry my baby on Sunday.

I've never been so alone. No one knows. I still work, school. What am i to do? I'm lost

Answer 1

If what ur saying is all true then honey u need some professional help...we can all give u advice, our thoughts and opinions...but u need that of a professional, some medication to get your chemical imbalance in check for the depression before it gets way out of hand, you need to actually get away from someone that can and will take you down with them via their wrong doings in the future IF they too don't seek professional help, and honey most of all you need someone to lock their arms around you and give you some TLC....where is your mom in all of this? If she's still here go to her, an Aunt, or develop a relationship with one or both of those half sisters...you don't have to be alone and no one should... Get that help from professions... and don't count out those sisters...they didn't do anything wrong...Good Luck Hon, if I were there I'd hold you and let you cry it all out...

Answer 2

There is a reason for all things and in all things God has to get the glory. You have these storms because your attention is needed and how you handle this storm will more than likely determine how you handle other obstacles that may come your way. Don't give up, give in to the Lord Jesus and allow him to help you. You are never alone. Right now you are faced with a choice and because you have reached out you are on the right path to making the right choice. Seek out a minister that you can trust that will help with some other questions that will come up, and believe me there will be other questions.

Answer 3

Firstly please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of you baby and all of the other challenges that you are going through. Secondly no one can help you if no one knows. With regards to the siblings on My Space put them on the back burner let them know that you have a lot on your plate right now and that you will get back to them at a later date. Regarding your nephew the thing that he needs right now is stable parents and what they need is practical help, keeping the house up getting groceries help paying bills etc if you can do 1 of those things consistenly and take it of the parents mind that will help.

For You: Talk to a conseller or a priest and get some support for you.

Remember: Live goes in cycles and this is a very down one this can only get better and they will in time.

Answer 4

Get to a doctor about your anxiety issues. He/she can prescribe you something or refer you to someone who knows how to talk to you. Your boyfriend made poor decisions and he has to pay for that and there is nothing you can do about it. A good person does not steal, sorry. Talk to your father about why he hid your siblings. If you want to get to know them, do that. I am sorry about your nephew and the loss of your baby. Those are things that you do not have control over. You are not alone. You sound like a sweet person who takes the world on her shoulders and you can't do that. Talk to your pastor if you can't talk to your parents. At your school there should be crisis centers and all info is kept confidential. Take a deep breath, it will be fine. I send you prayers and blessings.

Answer 5

I'm in a similar situation. Well, kinda.

I was just told recently that the dad I thought was my dad was not, and the my real dad is someone else. I was 23 when my mom told me this.

I lost all of my friends from a rumor caused by a former-friend. All of us were part of the same church, so they all act as one.

My cousin was hit while riding a motorbike, and he is paralyzed from the waist down, living in a developing country.

At least with you, you probably have friends, and the loneliness isn't literal. There are men out there who buy lotto tickets, sip beer and watch wrestling. That's their whole life.

Answer 6

With the stress of you being so financially insecure, and all these things happening, the pregnancy itself, the boyfriend going to jail, being arrested, whatnot, your poor nephew, the surprise sisters, it's not amazing that you miscarried. It is very sad though... You need some support! Your campus should have some sort of program in place to help you. Try to find it, give it a chance.

Answer 7

Get some serious psychological help. If you have no insurance, there are plenty of free clinics offering mental health care. you can take advantage of these programs and better yourself.


If you think someone who routinely commits grand theft is a good person, there is something wrong with you.


All the other things seem horrid, but they aren't things you have had a choice in....life can certainly suck and you need to learn to deal with it.


But to stay with a thief because you seem to think you deserve no better? That's just sad and you need professional help.


Good luck, I hope things get better for you.

Answer 8

wow that is alot to take in and well im not all that into it but right now u could really use going to church right now it sucks to have people u love takin away from u but it is all part of life just take it one day at a time and be strong everything happens for a reason if ur boyfriend gets locked up and u lost ur baby to people were taken from ur life and two were put into ur life....maybe its for the best you need time to urself to help u get stronger mentally talk to a counselor if that would help for u wont b so alone

Answer 9

Cast and Phaylynn are both right.

in any case you need to be with people that are good to you.

friends, (true friends!) family or go to church, their you will always have an open table.

5 yrs ago, i lost everything in a couple of days ... everything means everything ...
family (divorce + she kept my 2 kids), job, money, house, even driving licence was withdrawn in same period !!! i felt so alone ... and went to church ... i really had the strong feeling that on christ's table, everybody is wellcome ... specially miserable people... of course nothing was back ... but i felt better and circumstances started changing ... and life improved ...

Church was a good answer and at the table of jesus (the final diner with the 12 apostles ... ) EVERYBODY IS WELCOMED.

if i was you, i would do both things, go to friends ... family AND go to church.

Good luck and may god bless you.

Answer 10

I would honestly suggest trying to go seek help. Go to a counselor. I can give you a million words of advice on here but you need someone right in front of you to talk to.

it always seems that life always crumbles all at once. Trust me i know. You HAVE to overcome all of that though. That's why you live...thats what life is all about. thats why theres an "IF" in the middle of Life. You never know what life is going to through at you. but you will be stronger after this, i promise.

and as far as the boyfriend----god i couldnt understand more. Its hard having a bf thats always in trouble, that no one understands why your together, but you lvoe more than anything. Stay true to your heart thats all that matters.

smile.