Why do women think female emotions are more valid than male emotions?

Question

If you don't do what she wants or make her feel bad in some way, you obviously don't understand and you're an insensitive, uncaring jerk.

But as far as what you want her to understand, chances are you're a crybaby or childish or a sex maniac or immature or whining or angry, so pretty much anything a guy feels is WRONG, if its not something a woman can understand or identify with.

I'm surprised at some of the sexist comments I'm getting from women here

Don't most of the answers from women here only PROVE MY POINT FURTHER. I MUST be wrong to feel this way.

"Sarah" That argument goes both ways

Answer 1

You hit my hot button! Popular culture is so focused on how men just don't understand. During the movie "the truth about cat's and dogs" we got a lecture on how guys should look past the physical and get to know the woman and then they would have great sex because there would be this connection. That had to be written buy a woman or a gay dude. That would be like asking a woman to focus more on the sexual / physical side of a guy and ignore the fact that he is emotionally detached and unwilling to commit. We are hard-wired differently. Neither is wrong. We just are...
And pop culture is into male bashing. How many sitcoms and commercials are centered around the clueless hapless guy supported by his brilliant skilled wife?
O.K., I'm done now. Thanks for noticing this stuff too.

Answer 2

I've noticed that it's hard for women to get a word in edge-wise at some conferences, they're literally get shouted over by male participants, or just ignored as though they hadn't said anything. I just went to a computer conference where the majority of the administrators were women, yet the people running the conference were men. When these men introduced women speakers, they mentioned how the women looked, if they were married, and if they had children. When they introduced male speakers, they discussed the men's education and working experience. I had to leave - the sexism was disgusting, I didn't want to waste my time being around such idiots-and the male leaders were in charge of a number of the events I had wanted to go to, before I found out they were running them. I can't believe that I wasted my money and program's money to be insulted - needless to say, I won't be attending that conference again. And I won't be recommending it to anyone either-as the same idiots run it every year.

Answer 3

I think we believe in the old wise tail of women being more emotional then men but in some cases it is not true! My husband has many valid emotions and tried to get me to understand his perspective. Sometimes I cam be a real jerk about it though! I think many relationships do have communication problems because the two sexes male/female speak two different languages and hear totally different things then what the other person is trying to say. If she is not listening to you and not attempting to understand then she is being selfish. I don't think it is as much a female thing then a problem she is having. You should try the exercise where you both each have a 20 minute session of talking and the other one cannot interrupt but listen and really listen to whet the other is saying. I heard that this exercise does help with communication!

Answer 4

Your feelings are not only valid, but common among men, This is the point that Dr. Laura and a few others are trying to make clear to women. Society only encourages this idea that women's feelings matter, and mens do not. Of course you will get stupid remarks by women claiming that YOU are the one being sexist when you talk about this. It is insane. Men you may consider getting the book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands for your wives. I know how dare someone come out with such a book that actually talks about WOMEN pleasing their men. Well I have the book. And I am prepared to use it when I get married. Women if you want to get what you ask for, if you want a peaceful marriage, LISTEN to your man. RESPECT him. And read that book.

Answer 5

I agree with you, Mike T. Women feel about emotions the same way they feel about having babies, "You can't possibly imagine what it's like to be pregnant and give birth!" It's all stereotypical thinking. Women are supposed to be experts when it comes to relationships and feelings, while men are hopeless klutzes, only good for fixing things around the house and defending the homeland.

Answer 6

I think you're wrong there, brother. I am an amphibian and I can be either sex. I think when I feel upset as a male frog it isn't different from when I feel upset as a female frog.

My gripe is that I live in a cup and I need a bigger home....Anyone got a bucket?

Answer 7

I think most of the time and most women are emotionally based whereas men aren't considered to be.Women feel emotions differently than a man and their emotions are often more intense.A man can easily seperate his emotions into categories and can easily blow off what they deem as silly feelings...
I personally think that an emotion is an emotion equally felt.We just all handle them differently there shouldn't be a right or wrong or my feelings are more important than yours kind of issue.

But Thats Just Me,
M.G

Answer 8

No, you're not wrong for feeling that way and they've just proved it, some of the women posters that is.
The thing is some women believe that they're so highly evolved in the realm of emotions, that no other being has that right. Reason being we use our emotions as a main basis of communication. For instance all another women has to do is sit in front of us and we pretty much zero in on what her problem is. This is something we know that men are not capable of, being that women are more social and men are more of the hunting/ leader of the pack variety. Yet, it doesn"t mean men haven't any emotions, they do; only they keep them in check for the reason of defending what is their's and they use them differently. This is where the identification comes in; the recognition of what I just said. Yet, it doesn"t mean men haven't any emotions, they do; only they keep them in check for the reason of defending what is their's and they use them differently.

Answer 9

I went through this for a while. I found the way out. Just use reasoning and be ruthless if it fails on women. As you have pointed out most of male emotions fail. But the male emotion "blind fury" works with women and it works only when the reasoning is correct and you are sincere.

Ruthless :Without mercy or pity.
> Synonym: pitiless, remorseless, unpitying.
> Similar: merciless, unmerciful.
- An act of ruthless ferocity.
- A monster of remorseless cruelty.

Answer 10

Nah, I don't know.

Men tend to show their emotions through anger. But I do not apply that to all, just like men think women are too emotional in regards to sadness and crying but hopefully don't apply THAT to all.

I don't think one is more valid is more valid than the other; it's just how we all portray our emotions is what can get to people (good or bad).