My friend is a lesbian and she thinks people have varying degrees of sexuality (like kinsey). Like someone is 99% attracted to girls and 1% attracted to boys or 45% attracted to girls 55% attracted to boys. She thinks that people who are closest to the 50% (meaning bisexuals) have a hard time finding happiness. She feels because they like both sex's they will never be able to settle for just one without missing something from the other sex. Whats your view on it?
2007-10-10 05:01:05 · 12 answers · asked by lovelylady 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That is the biggest myth concerning bisexuality. I am bisexual, married, and perfectly happy.
Liking two different types of people does not mean you crave both and unhappy with only one.
Imagine someone liking both blonds and redheads. Is that person doomed to be unhappy if he/she is with a blond?
I love my husband. I find women attractive, but I am not unhappy.
2007-10-10 05:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, mostly, on both parts of your question...
I am 100% convinced that there is NO SUCH THING as a "Pure" Homosexual or "Pure" Heterosexual.
Humans are such complicated creatures... We can't even decide on a favorite type of ICE CREAM let alone something as inherently complicated as emotional and physical attachments.
As a person that is attracted MAINLY to females yet still periodically attracted to males I believe in the concept of Polyamorous Relationships.
Basically it means that you have 2 partners and each partner is 100% an equal in the relationship.
1 girl and 2 guys...
2 guys and 1 girl...
"Swingers" with 2 couples that share 1 big relationship.
The whole concept of devoting your whole life to only 1 other person is extremely disturbing to me.
I see it as an artificial structure set up for control and is in no way a realistic way to live.
With our divorce rate and cheat rate so high I can't understand how anyone can still believe in the 1+1=happiness equation when the results are so unbalanced...
I do want to make 1 thing clear: I AM 100% against CHEATING...
The difference between a cheating scum-bag and a Polyamorous relationship is the "Deceit Factor".
When you cheat you go behind someone's back and form either an emotional attachment or physical attachment to another person.
Secrets and lies are always detrimental to everyone involved.
A Poly Relationship is where EVERYONE sits down together and has an open discussion about EVERYTHING.
No secrets, no lies, no sneaking around...
As long as everyone has their say and everything is said there can be no hurt feelings because everyone's opinion and view is respected.
THAT is the way to true happiness in a relationship...
Open communication...
I hope that this gives you something to think about.
2007-10-10 05:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. Some bisexuals have problems finding partners because though they are sure of their attraction to the same sex, they're unsure about a long term relationship (life partnership). Such as; they might have a mindset where they can only have a normal life in a heterosexual relationship with children. I'm definitely not saying all bisexuals are like this, but I do know of many lesbians who have sworn off dating bisexual girls because of this. It DOES happen a lot.
There are bisexual girls out there who can find forever in the same gender and I say more power to them. But as for the confused, figure out what you want from a homosexual relationship (in the long term) before jumping into one.
2007-10-10 05:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question. The answer will depend on the individual and what kind of situations they have been in. If we are talking about someone who is very much into the one person relationship, then they are more likely to find happiness with who they choose to be with. Now, if the person has been able to have it both ways then they are more likely to have a need to maintain that open mindedness. And the only way someone can be happy in that situation is to have an open relationship were they are able to have both. Once you are into the lifestyle you are going to wonder and most likely roam no matter which mate you are with. But with anyone, if they can find that someone who makes them feel whole, then they can decide to stay with that one person and be happy. Its a major issue of fulfilment at that point.
2007-10-10 05:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no hard and fast rules. Many bisexuals find the person they fall in love with and that is all that matters. Others manage to hold down a relationship with a person of each gender, or have open relationships (e.g. swingers). Live your life, at 15 you've other things to consider (like getting a good education - to enable you to live a better life). Try not to worry about what your future holds.
2016-03-19 09:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....I dont usually label myself as a bisexual but for the sake of your question lets say I am (I was zero on the kinsey scale). I am very happy in my current relationship (female). We have been together for a year and a month. Anyway my point is I am capable of being completely happy with the person I love-regardless of their gender. People tend to think bisexuals are greedy or indecisive. We are perfectly capable of being happy with one person. When Im with my girlfriend I dont think about what I may be missing out on with a guy. I hope I helped.
2007-10-10 05:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by ajdb090706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had a serious relationship with a woman but am very sexually attracted to them. My current boyfriend knows this and loves and accepts me as I am.
Even out of a relationship I have always been a happy person.
To me happiness has nothing to do with sexual preference or sexuality at all.
Happiness is a decision I made. I have decided to be happy no matter what and I truly feel I am.
I am very blessed to have a loving relationship and a great family so I think that also helps.
2007-10-10 05:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. A bisexual can be very happy. A heterosexual is attracted to lots of people- but they fall in love with one person and they stop thinking about the others. The same is for a bisexual. They fall in love and they forget about the others. If they don't forget about the others than that person is probably not the person they should be spending the rest of their life with.
If a person feels as if they cannot commit to one person - that is different. You can be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual and feel that way.
2007-10-10 05:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree at all.
Just because someone is bisexual does NOT mean they aren't able to be monogamous AND happy!
I'm bisexual, I do not/have never/will never cheat on ANY partner. I am truly happy in my relationship of over ten years.
If your relationship isn't keeping both of you happy sexually, then that just indicates a COMMUNICATION problem!
2007-10-10 05:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I must admit, my views don't vary much from the sister's. I believe that happiness & fullfillment go hand in hand. Aside from experimentation and/or lustful desire, bisexuality is only appreciated by other bisexuals. To this heterosexual male, bisexuality is the antithesis of fullfillment.
2007-10-10 06:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by marcavelli0569 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋