When does a request become nagging?

Question

I want to know,to know,to know I can hear my gf requesting lmao

Answer 1

Instead of ultimations,try to brainstorm solutions with your gf share your feelings calmly ans acknowledge your different perspectives and expections. if you tend to monopolise the conversation give your partner a chance to talk and do not interrupt, good luck . bet u still love for all her nagging LMAO

Answer 2

A request becomes nagging when said with negative motivation... ie anger or frustration.

This means, a request could be nagging the first time you ask. Try making a request with a few options.... like, would you mind helping me empty the dishwasher? Would it be easier for you to do it now or before supper?

Then, after your request is acted upon.... don't forget to say "thanks--I really appreciate your help" or "thanks--your help means so much to me".

Then for the last thing, ask the person how YOU can be of help to them... requesting is often a give & take kind of proposition.

Answer 3

It only becomes nagging if you don't tell her when you'll do whatever it is you are supposed to do. If she asks you to go to the store, let her know if you're busy but that you'll do it later, by 5:00 at the latest. That will give you a break because she knows you understood her request and you set a time for completion. If you don't follow through in time, she will be able to ask you again because you didn't do it.

I had to learn this when I got married. You won't get nagged if you tell her you will do it and when to expect it to be done. Good luck!!
Oh, and if she asks again before the time you said you'd be done, remind her you will do it by so-and-so and that you haven't forgotten. If you keep up with following through, she'll learn to trust you when you say you'll do something by such-and-such time and the nagging will magically disappear.

Answer 4

hard to say, does she ask you repeatedly over the course of an hour or a few days?
Is it to take out the trash during the game?
Or to help her with wedding planning.
Just know, being in a relationship does take work.
If she asks you to do something, and you can't at the moment (or wont because you're watching tv or something)
than tell her when you will do it. If she still bugs you than shes nagging. If you give her a time frame and you still dont do it, if she has to ask again than you are a lazy bastard.

Answer 5

When you don't act on it the first time round. Nagging starts when the person who is requested or expected to do something, doesn't bother to do it. Contrary to popular belief nagging has everything to do with the nagged and very little to do with the nagger.

Answer 6

A request, is like a sales pitch.....there is a lot in the PRESENTATION !... Think ! How would you have presented this request to him if you had only known him for a short while,,,....like before you were married ? Did you "sweet talk " him, ? Like , did you put on your sweetest, sexiest face, and say something like,... "Would you do me a great big favor ? I'd be ever so grateful, if you could find the time to do it..... " or did you take the "old witch " approach,...put on a face like a Bulldog just before it chomps someone's behind, and growl..... " D---- it Dave,! this is the THIRD time I've asked you to do this...! " As a Black friend of mine used to say,.... " Yo' kin ketch mo' flies wif "Horny" than you kin wif Vinegar !" Have you forgot the "womanly wiles " that you used BEFORE you married him ?" Men like to be ASKED....not ORDERED..... and if you put a little bit of "Honey" on your request, it is much easier to swallow..... the trick is to make him want to do it,..... not to escape punishment by doing it... I'm sure if you took the time to meditate,.... you could remember how you got your way, way back when you first met.....

Answer 7

When the request is repeated without enough time for you to fulfill it, that's nagging. If she's nagging, ask her if she felt there was enough time for you to fulfill it since the last time she requested it. Hopefully she'll get the hint and that nagging will change to occasional requests. :)

Good luck!

Answer 8

A request becomes nagging the first time you repeat it.

Answer 9

i don't know what imao means.
but basically the request becomes nagging when you don't want to hear it.
you can make a request of her:
would you be willing to remind me again next tuesday (or the 1st of next month)
but better still you need to get underneath the needs of the request. maybe you are not willing to do her request and she needs to find another way to get her needs met.

Answer 10

When the person who is requesting asks multiple times in an irritating fashion, and when the person being requested of has given an answer but the requestor persists...