Hi there could i have some advice with this?

Question

I'm a bit upset
when i'm at school
I notice myself in the reflection of things
and it realy get me down
people tell me that i'm not ugly
but i think maybe there just telling me that
to make me feel better :D

i keep saying to myself
"Oh get over yourself"
but its hard when you see a face like mine in the mirror
I'm 15 and that might have something to do with it but other girls seem to be fine with there apprearence
its just hard for me to except myself

what could i do to stop me thinking i'm gly?


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thanks a bunch

I'm scared that the person i realy fancy will think i'm ugly..but he does look at me though but whe i see him i think
he's probably thinking i'm ugly?

I dont know
i'm being realy stupid here i feel like a retard but here is me like


http://i105.photobucket.com/albums/m203/katypage1992/mewithwinelol.jpg

LoL its not wine
i stole it from my mum for the picture
hehehe xxxxxxxx

Answer 1

ur 15?..wow you look so much older..but ur a beautiful girl..honsetly!! stop being so hard on yourself...be confident..tell yourself you are beautiful and eventually you'll start to believe it!

Answer 2

What you are doing is a 'psychological symptom' of your low self esteem. You wouldn't 'notice' your reflection if you weren't concerned about your looks. Of course your 'reflection' is UGLY, because you are NOT looking into a MIRROR and it's as if you 'think' this is a NORMAL mirror image when it's more a 'funhouse mirror' ...
Try getting INVOLVED in school ... think about what you need for your next class, talk with friends and look at them, think about the 'school building' and what you and a group could do to make IT look better ...
EVERYONE is 'ugly' and everyone is also 'beautiful' ... your 'beauty' comes from INSIDE of you or from having a 'makeup artist' fixing you up to go in front of the camera. Use good hygiene, dress well, make sure your hair is neaty combed, stand up straight and SMILE ... there, you are 'beautiful' so STOP LOOKING at your 'reflection' and start LIVING the beautiful person you ARE.

Answer 3

Hi god there is nothing wrong with you, if thats your picture on the link, I cannot find any faults on you. No if I put my picture on here then you can easily pic out my faults, so basically there are worse people out there. It sounds like you have low self estim and maybe talking to someone will help, as if effectiing you now then it might effect you when you get older, and its not a nice thing.

Everyone hates something about themselves and noone see there selves how others see them. It all in your mind. I dont like my relfection I dont like the way I look,.as I obviously have got feature that need alot of improvment, but you have the perfect features, so stop beating your self up about it, and just think about all those people out there that actually do get bullied because they have a deformitly or there is something wrong with them that people poke fun at.

No one can make you think that you are not ugly as no matter what we say its only you that can change you opinion of yourself, and you can see someone about this problem..

Somedays I like myself and the way I look other days I barely want to look a myself, I think its just hormones, so maybe taking viatmin b6 ,evening primrose oil or starflower oil, might help to sort them out and put a spring in your step

Answer 4

you obviously have low confidence but like you say get over yourself nobody else is caring what you look like you just have to learn to be comfortable with yourself okay I know how you feel but I just try to think of all the things that are good about me! think about 5 years from now will it matter how you looked that one day NO! What will matter is your education! And you might not even see those people from school when you graduate so just be comfortable w/ yourself

Answer 5

OMG did i write this in my sleep or something?!! this is totally me! everything you just said - the guys looking at you but you thinking they're thinking youre ugly its all i go through too but people tell me i should be a model. We just have to get over the insecurity. However i see it this way - at least we're not vain and i hate that MUCH more than insecurity. My mum says as i get older ill like my face and body more and appreciate it more- I dunno, i guess it just depends on the person- im generally quite outgoing, dunno about you. Id say dont worry about it. Just focus on your best features and by the way you ARE very very pretty so you honestly, from the bottom of my heart, have NOTHING to worry about. Youre stunning.

Answer 6

Everyone one has a problem with your appearance, people seem cool, but everyone has a problem with who they are, that is all their is to it. If you think you are fat eat healthy and exersize more, if you don't like your skin, take care of it better, if you don't like your hair, learn to take care of it for what kind of hair it is, and if you don't like your body shape, dress it well. There are plenty of things to do other than go to a pitty party, so join a club or a group. The girl you see in the mirror is not really who other people see you to be, because your attitude is just as important as your looks. Half your beauty is in your personality.

Answer 7

well first of all what dont you like when yo see yourself in the mirror? maybe you can start looking at the things you like about yourself, something that makes you unique and stands out about you.Try to look at yourself i a more positive way.mabe that will help you feel better about yourself. and when you have confidence others (even guys) will start looking at you in a different way and maybe say "wow shes pretty cute "or something like that .some times people see what you see if you look in the mirror and really think that your pretty then others might think that as well.and when you think about yourself in a negative way you could push people away from you. nobody wants to hang out with a negative person.EVERYONE has something they dont like about the selfs but most of them dont let it bother them. I really hope I helped you. hope u feel better about yourself. : ) i just saw your picture you have nothing to worry about ur very pretty.

Answer 8

you're fifteen. you're still going through puberty so your beauty hasn't reached it's full potential yet :P why do you think you're ugly? probably you've experienced many insults to your looks when you were young, or you've done something really bad to have such a low outlook on yourself. This is a concern to your self-esteem dear, not on how you look. instead of always looking at your appearance, try looking into the inner you. focus on things you're good at. focus on the people you love, your family and friends. focus on every good thing you've experienced. focus on your dreams and on striving for them. anyway, beauty depends on the eye of the beholder. all you have to do is to change his/her attitude to appreciate any beauty in the world, and the person you can start with is yourself.

Answer 9

All you have to do is believe what your friends are telling you. If they are true friends they won't lie to you. And sometimes only sometimes a little bit of makeup might help. Also, just keep telling yourself if people don't think that you are pretty it is their loss. Because Everybody is Beautiful in their own way.

Answer 10

I used to be like that. I had to see someone about it because it really affected my life so i know what youre going through. The reality is that you are attractive. However thats not what you see when you look in the mirror. you have to remember that what people see when they look at you isnt what you see. This boy wouldnt be looking at you if he thought you were unattractive he wouldnt waste his time! I dont look at people i find unattractive i look i people i like the look of!
You have a self esteem issue and personally i think its possibly worth talking to your dr about. Dont ever let your thoughts like this stop you doing what you want to do in life. I spent years avoiding socialising and dating and if someone chatted to me in a club i always thought it was a "bet" and i was rude to them.
Its not the reality though. Live your life, believe in yourself and believe in others!

Answer 11

:) Listen to those people.
I know the feeling. I look in the mirrors and see messed up hair and a crummy complection. Everybody else manages to look so perfect.
Just try to keep telling your self that you're not ugly and don't let it get you down. Everybody is beautiful :)